Okay, my wife and I have been trying to experiment with anal sex. The problem is that whenever I stick anything in, she gets a burning stinging feeling. I think the reason for this is how we use the lube.

We've always started out with a single finger, then a slim 5" vibrator. The way I apply the lube is just squirting it on her starfish. I rub it around just a little then slowly start a pokin.

Would it be a better idea to smear the lube over my finger/vibe or what?