I can't let this pass...........and pardon me for saying so, as I know everyone has an opinion........but I disagree with the above statements!

I've read and rearead your plight. I can understand your S/O's questions and yours as well hitachi. Firstly......it's HER guilt that makes her question YOUR love for her. She stepped out and was founded out (no matter how) and therefore, in her mind, she had doubts (at the time) of her love for you. So, if you are willing to share her now (for whatever reason.....and I do not judge the reason), then in her heart and mind she is reminded of your commitment to one another and the feeling you must have felt when you discovered her disloyalty.

Being a woman I feel I can speak on behalf of why we think men are from mars and women.....venus! I have sex (except in one instance) with my heart as well as my genitals. I think (and correct me if I am wrong) men will have sex for the sake of sex! If this statement makes sense to you hitachi..........then you now understand your S/O's feelings!

Hope this helps! Communication is the key....and it seems to me you have the key......just keep turning it!

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