A few questions first... does she know of your history and the great amount of stress that you have been under? The emotional ups and downs that you have experienced could be part of it.

And please don't take this wrong. I am a woman and have been in a similar situation you have been with your divorce(although not as long as you have been experiencing it). Sometimes once you have gone through what you have gone through, it is hard to, dare I say trust again? I had a difficult time being able to "let myself go" in the moment because I was afraid of getting hurt again. That was a form of protection for me. Making love is a committment for a woman, and perhaps ejaculating is a form of committment for a man.... I don't know. Just some amature phychiatricy....

Hubby wonders if you masturbate a lot. If you have been and do, he thinks that maybe if you hold off from doing that, it may help. He went through a long period of time when he was married before where his wife at the time didn't like sex and his only relief was to masturbate. He had to do that so much that over time, he became desensitized to vaginal stimulation.....

Just keep talking to her, be very understanding - sounds like she is insecure about herself and needs you to "perform" to make her feel better. Maybe she can masturbate you, or just make sure that you are sooooooo relaxed that you can cum inside her.

The only problem is if you or her keep concentrating on that issue, it can make it more difficult for you....

Hope this helps.

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