BigBear57 - If you want it set right then give it a shot. Just keep yourself relaxed (no matter how crazy it gets) and help her to start talking.

Steph said "calmly" and that's always been key for me.

Everyone's different so it's hard to say what'll happen.

The hardest part for me is keeping my cool - this kind of thing usually hurts. If the hurt gets bad enough a simple "Babe, this hurts" statement usually helps her to soften it a bit.