MontereyGirl, your advice was very helpful. You asked about her reaction to the possibility of a threesome and that raises another question. Her reaction was that she would not be able to handle the acuality of sharing me with someone else. I respect opinion on this even though I feel differently because of her past relationships. All of her previous relationships were bad to say the least. She has never thought of herself as even close to attractive. Even now she disagrees whenever I tell her how beautiful she is but even her family has volunteered their opinion that she's not even close to the same person she used to be. With her having this much self-conscienceness she found herself in relationship after relationship with "players" and straight up assholes who treated her horribly and often cheated on her, numerous times.

I understand that in this relatively new relationship she has not had the time that she needs to resolve her fears that the same thing that happened in the past will not happen now. Although I have brought up the issue of experimenting with addition partners a few times it has been to understand more about her feelings rather than asking her permission. My wife and I both agree that communication is second only to trust in a relationship and we work almost daily to maintain those two things.

I want to express the fact that I do not expect or even really want us to try something like this for quite a while. I simply feel that the better I understand her and her mindset, the happier I can make her. Having said that, I do still want to try this but at this time I am mostly looking to better understand her mindset so that when we are ready, we have a better chance of coming out of this without any regrets or fears.