If you are referring to sn250's response making sense...it does. It is also called mirroring, it is a communication tool, taught by therapists. It is supposed keep you on track so you don't go off on tangents, which typically happens when people start spewing accusatory comments ie...you always, you never etc...Instead of retorting w/ more comments from your perspective you are to focus by mirroring. For example, "If I am understanding you correctly....(insert what they just said).

His idea of guessing what is going on is a good way to get this dialogue going. But the real purpose of mirroring is to make the other person feel "heard" and "understood".