Michael Smith, you DO get around. I just left the ElectricLover.com site after posting an answer to this question there (smile). I'll say the same thing here. The biggest mistake my past lovers have made is to assume that what has worked for their previous lovers is what will work for me too w/regard to having an orgasm. I do believe it is my responsibility to try to get across what WILL work for me, but it's a moot point if my lover is not going to listen but instead still insist that he knows best what will make me cum.

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