I couldn't stop laughing when I read the posts - for my wife and I with 2 small kids, getting ready for sex first involves getting out our day planners, finding a day when we both have time off, the kids don't have dance, gym, soccer, piano lessons, ski lessons, etc. Then we need to find a baby sitter who will take the kids so we can grab a few minutes of quite time. Being spontanious means saying "Quick - lock the door - they are watching tv". The only candles we have used lately are on birthday cakes. :yellghst: :yellghst: :yellghst: