How do you give advice to someone who has been through this even though I have been through it as well? Each person is different, and since I don't know exactly what you are feeling and the depth of feelings you have for this person, it is difficult to give suggestions.... so I can tell you what I did. I was 33 at the time.

First of all, I analyized the relationship and realized that I lost myself somewhere along the way. I decided that in order for me to move on, I needed to rediscover myself. I worked on me. I did things that interested me. I traveled. (What did help me was that I had 2 kids that depended on me - that helped as distraction.) I reconnected with family. I joined a group (weight loss). I even tossed around the idea of going back to school.

Basically I decided that what I wanted at the time wasn't meant to be (difficult to admit, but I had to do that), in order to move on. Then when I felt a lot better about myself, and realized that I was in control of me, I met my soul mate. Out of the blue this man appeared. The timing was right and even though it was difficult to trust again, I realized that I wasn't going to lose anything if I did trust vs. not trusting. I tried again, and to be honest it was the best decision I have ever made.

It will be difficult, but as the saying goes, time heals all wounds. It is o.k. to dwell in the feelings of lose, but you need to kick yourself in the butt and decide that YOU are IMPORTANT, and YOU are in CONTROL of what you want.

Until you decide for yourself that you are able to move on, all the advise in the world won't help you. This is what I did, and the results of my decisions. I know it hurts, but you will survive and go on. I will be thinking of you............