actually what I am referring to is the thread that my wife started. I reminded her that not so long ago she made me choose over someone i grew up around and we called each other boyfriend and girlfriend hell idont think I kissed this girl 5 times over a period of 7yrs but still she felt threatened by her so i said goodbye to her. Now I am asking her to make the same choice over a man we induced into our sexual relationship and she became friends and I see as a big problem,but her answere to this is "that was then and this is now , we have so far in our relationship we should have unconditional love for each other." I told her there is no such thing.We were at abar last night (playing 9 ball) when her friend walks in . I was ok with it at first because I told wifey to tell him.to keeps hands off and we would see where that went. as the night progressed I got tired and wanted to go home so I told wife I was headed to the car. I waited 15 min still she hadnt come out so I pretended to leave the parking lot but came back thru a side driveway and peeked thr a window in the door just in time to see him spanking her arse. I walked in ushered her to the door but on the by him I gave him an elbow to the head and told him not to do it again and left.