10-30-2008, 05:06 PM
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pixie of the wood
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Join Date: Apr 2004
Posts: 10,575
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i detected a bit of sarcasm too, lil, but perhaps it is not so and only the fault of internet expression. hope so. vengeance would only serve to wedge even the tiniest crack wider. anyway, i did think on it and i do have advice. relationships can evolve, sure enough. and what was needful then may not be needful now and the other way round. BUT no matter how seasoned a relationship is, if onehalf wants otherhalf to stop doing something that hurts and otherhalf really does love onehalf unconditionally, then it isn’t wrong to ask otherhalf to stop. and otherhalf should want to stop once they found out how badly onehalf was hurting.
on the other hand - if onehalf wants otherhalf to stop doing something that maybe so or maybe no could lead to hurt, well then, that is an issue of trust, no? not love. in which case love should be weighed again, perhaps. and as is almost always the quandary, what does onehalf do if the stopping will only make otherhalf the one hurting? if peeps knew that, the divorce rate would be a tenth what it is, i suspect.
good luck. i sincerely hope you can work it out.
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