Good advice and links! Especially pay close attention to the links on safety. You really don't want a fun night of torture to go wrong.

If you are looking to speak to people who have a lot of experience with BDSM and all the varying areas of kink then I would recommend forums like Collar Me and Literotica BDSM forum. And for the best toys check out JT Stockroom. http://www.stockroom.com/home.aspx

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