Good question Jude....what do you think 'it takes' to talk to a woman?

Don't you talk to your Mum? Sisters? Aunts? Colleagues? College Professors?

You can talk to any woman the way you talk to any of the above, but probably best not to start by talking to a woman you find hugely sexually attractive.

In my experience, young guys only seem interested in talking to women they find sexually attractive and don't seem to see 'ordinary women' as women at all!

Take your focus away from sex - it's not the be all and end all. If this were a woman posting, she'd be worrying about lack of confidence, maybe lack of attractiveness, not lack of sex. Sex is great but you're only expected to be having that with one person out of the world's population at a time, so surely forming other kinds of relationships with women should be your focus. If you truly have no female friends to whom you can talk in a non-sexual capacity, then that has to be your focus, surely?

As Lilith says, you need to learn to walk before you can run. Clearly if the intimacy of making eye contact with a woman is too much for you, how on earth can you think you're emotionally ready for sex? It's not just about sticking your dick in something, you know. Your lack of confidence belies a lack of emotional maturity, so deal with that, and the sex will probably follow.

On a final note - you're really not alone. I know MANY men who didn't lose their virginity until they were in their 20s. In fact I know more who were in their 20s than were in their teens.

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