The one year guideline has been explained to me but no one I know follows that. Not even my sponsor, and yes I do have one. Basically, it's a 'when ever you feel ready' type deal. Natasha is the only woman I feel I'm ready for. I understand that it takes time to understand who I really am. I just feel that she can help me understand who I am. I'm leaving it to God, I'm being honest with her, myself, and my sponsor. I'm working the program and this relationship to the best of my abilities. I'm a member of the 'No Matter What' club. No matter what, I know I don't have to use. I've gone through a crisis recently and I now know how to work every tool in my toolbelt. I seriously don't think that she'll do anything that would make me want to use. But even if she does, I'm not going to use, no matter what! The way I see it, if it's meant to be, it'll happen. If it's not meant to happen, then it won't. Like I said, I'm leaving it up to God. I just wanted some advice if it turns out I am meant to be with her.

Congrats winston77 on your own recovery! Thanks for your input.

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words I live by;

POW/MIAs - No Will Never Be Forgotten

Karma can be a bitch, so don't make her mad!

Politeness counts.

The definition of a gentleman/lady is someone who does all the he/she can do to make the people around them as happy and comfortable as possible

Life's a bitch but it's all gotta be for something. If you keep faith in that, everything will be okay.

Every once in a great while, you just gotta kick a little ass!