Originally Posted by Loulabelle

I'm with Lilith on this, personally I have an arsehole radar and have never been attracted to men who treat me like shit.

I genuinely do go for the shy guy in the room, but since I think attraction is different from turn ons, I'll address the question of what turns me on separately:

I like to be treated a bit wildly in the bedroom (or whichever room I happen to be getting dirty in)....I like it to be unpredictable and like my boundaries to be pushed - a little bit of role play and a little bit of use and abuse can be fun. The hard part is finding a man who respects me at all times, but who can still treat me like a whore in the bedroom from time to time. What happens in our sex life, stays in our sex life and I think the fact that I enjoy porn-star type sex with my man means he should think I'm even more wonderful and worthy of his adulation outside of the sexual context.

The old adage about being a 'lady in the parlour, angel in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom' is true for a lot of women like me, but the mistake men make is thinking that only one of those sides to my personality is the 'real me' and the other sides are just an act, when it's simply not true - they are all me. I don't pretend to have good manners be well educated and easily offended by crass behaviour, I really am all of those things but that doesn't mean I don't have a wild sexual side that needs fulfilment too. I think with a lot of women out there, men have finally got the kind of women they want but they don't know how to treat what seems to them to be this strange hybrid of the 'two kind of girls' their mother told them about.