First, let me say Welcum to Pixies daywalker22!

Lots of questions here. For example...Are you married? Do you live together? Do you own a home? Do you have children? Who moved out? Where did she/you move to? What does your "temper" cause you to do (ie: hit her, throw things, yell and not listen to her...etc.)?

Ya see...it's hard to answer your question in no uncertain terms beings we don't know the circumstances very well. But I'll give it a stab on assumption only!

By your last statement alone, "her to know and me to find out", it sounds to me like she wants you to take a good look at yourself and your relationship with her and try and understand what she may have been trying to say all along, but you wouldn't listen because you let your temper take you out of the situation.

Answer me this...when you are done your rant[s] do you ever look back and remember anything she's said? Or do you just remember that you said what you had to say loud enough to drown her out?

Try getting a book on relationships and how to argue. Dr. Phil writes some pretty good stuff on that subject.

In the meantime, take a breather and look introspectively and see if you can see things from her point of view. To understand someone you have to walk a mile in their shoes. When you feel comfortable that you've got a better perspective of what she's been trying to get you to see about yourself, go to her and tell her THANK YOU! Then woo the shit out of her and keep up with your own self improvement.

We fall in love with a certain person and then after a while the true person comes out. She might be scared that you have too much hidden anger and only YOU can make that otherwise!

Good luck hun...and keep us posted!

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