I'm less interested in reserving the right to rub one out than I am in not being thought less of because of my finding her nude body attractive.

Maybe I'm wrong.

Maybe I really should be able to see my wife nude and not get excited unless I know she wants sex.

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Though I am different from you,
We were born involved in one another.

For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.

Complete surrender should not just come at moments in which one faces overwhelming odds, but in the calm when it seems one is personally in complete control of one's life.