I absolutely agree with osuche... altho (as I explained in my prior post) my experience has been limited to men who have more interested in their own satisfaction, it could be that I am partly to blame... in that during these relationships I have always been hesitant when it comes to sharing my own needs and desires... Now.. please keep in mind that it has been a VERY long time since I have experienced any sexual contact with a partner... and since that time I have grown alot... and in doing so HOPE that if/when the opportunity arises that I will be more open and HONEST about my needs...