I was recently called 'slut' for the first time in a sexual situation and it was a real shock to the system at the time. I am a very sexual person and very uninhibited, but i think of a 'slut' as being a woman who is promiscuous and i am far from that, so i wasn't too happy to be called that as it is inaccurate, in my case!

I accepted that it was in the heat of the moment and we reached a compromise that he was ok to use it as long as it wasn't too often and it wasn't a kind of deliberate thing. If it just slips out because he's so horny, fine, but don't use it for my benefit, because it's not a turn on for me.

I'm sick of the double standard with sex and the fact that women are often teased and humiliated if an aspect of their sexuality is revealed, even within their relationships. I'm on a mission to make sure that my next long term partner respects me FOR my sexuality not inspite of it. Surely the fact that i'm into sexual experimentation should make me more desirable, but my experience has been that i've been taken less seriously by my lovers for enjoying sex. As though although i seem like a 'nice girl' on the outside, in fact i'm not so i don't need to be treated with the same level of respect. That stinks!!! Why does liking sex mean that we can't be strong intelligent independent women and be treated as such?

As you can probably tell this is a pet gripe of mine!

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