Doctors advise to wait six weeks until after your first exam after giving birth....just to make sure everything is alright and there is no infection.

Personally I waited the whole six weeks after my first for a variety of reasons but after the second it was three weeks. It all depends on each indiviual woman and how she heals and how rested she feels. Having a baby is not only hard work during the pregnancy and birthing process, it is very time consuming to care for your new baby and take care of yourself in the process. It is very difficult to get romantic when you are stealing sleep between feedings lol. It is also not conducive to having sex when any moment you expect the baby to start fussing. It does help though if daddy is involved in the care of the child for it not only helps you but gives them a heads up to how time consuming and tiring having a newborn is.......I would suggest that you just take it one day at a time, be patient and it will all fall in place.