Life is full of so many "shoulds" and I suppose if this were a perfect world there wouldn't be any question of sharing everything.

I've found for many people the net satisfies a need , whether it be sexual or intellectual or emotional.... I mean we're all online for something right. As time goes on people change and grow. Their opinions and interests change, and it's rare that two individuals will grow in the same direction in all things thru the years. It's only natural that people are drawn to spend time or talk to others who share their interests. Besides being with a carbon copy of yourself every day sounds so boring....lol

But often the knowledge that your partner is sharing part of themself with someone else can breed insecurity or fear especially in a partner who doesn't understand that interest. When a person feels their partner is drifting from them in their interests it can cause fear. When that interest is sexual or emotional it can cause the s/o to feel threatened in the relationship thereby causing waves of discontent, when all along the act itself was innocent. But for anyone who has pleaded their case to a partner and been met with a look of disgust or mistrust it becomes difficult to share as time goes by.

LOL... and I know for myself I am too easily guilted and for the sake of a relationship I have given up playgrounds in the past and stopped writing erotica online etc....

It just seems easier to do my thing and not advertise it so to speak.... I answer honestly when questioned but I no longer invite my s/o to come to my "playgrounds"

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