Virgin In Distress
 

Hi

I'm new to Pixies. I've been 18 for over a month now, and I found out about here not long before my birthday. I've enjoyed reading a few of the posts, but I never got round to posting any replies. So here I am now, introducing myself to coolest place to talk about anything to do with sex, but i've got a bit of a dilemma...

I'm a virgin. Surprise. Now I'm stuck in a choice for who to lose my virginity to (although in the first example, there isn't a definate chance of sex). Next week is my colleges leaving ball, and due to the location (a hotel about 12 miles away from where I live, near Manchester in the UK) i'm going to have to take out a room, as I intend on getting blind drunk. The only thing is, a girl that I fancy will be going on her own, and just a couple of weeks ago I was dead-set on asking her to come with me, and I would suggest we take out a room together incase we both got drunk and needed a place to shag in/needed somewhere to sleep in. The only problem I have is what has happened to me just recently.

I've fallen in love with someone online. Truly, utterly fallen. Despite what has been said about finding a girl/boyfriend online, me and my female friend have become incredibly open with each other, and we can talk for hours and hours over ICQ about silly things. Despite it being regarded as quite sad, we have ended up having Text-Sex over the past few nights, and if it carries on we will have to end up meeting each other so we can do it for real. The only problem i've got is that she lives 100 miles away from me, on the other side of the UK.

So what should I do? Should I risk it with a who's near, or should I go for a girl i've never even seen a picture of, but can quite happily talk dirty with for hours? Should I just crawl back into a hole and jack-off over porn? :confused:

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Ad Infinitum my advice is don't rush into anything with anyone......i know being a virgin now adays seems a little taboo....and your 18 and a man now.... I would say take your time and make it somthing that you will never regret...but if you deside now is the time in your life that you just have to have sex.......

1. your young and the college ball is only going to come once

2. the online love thing....i understand totally....but i say before you deside you are going to stay a virgin for her....stop and think what the chances really are of the two of you being together......(get a picture)

so all in all i say this is really a choice only you can make....but keep inmind "regrets are as personal as finger prints"

I'm not gonna tell you what to do,

But if you want good sex I would suggest you do not get blind drunk, how much do you like her if you want to get pissed to have sex? Does the girly know you fancy her? or is it just a boozey night for her?

100 miles is no distance if you really want to - do you really want to meet her ? Be honest.

the wank is cheapest and quickest and involves fewer people, but it is more fun with someone else

the hooker will cost and the risks increase - violence from pimp, blackmail, charge more, steal wallet, get a disease, get nicked - try explaining that one to your girly, parents, friends, teachers and the police.

The answers are yours.


Andrew

Sorry sounds hard, but it's best you make a decision.

Have fun and be safe whatever.

I think mainly you shold keep cool.

Getting blind drunk is a typical youngster idea that usually does not impress anybody. But if you want, go for it. Not my fault then, hehehee.

Take all the time you need. That party is a good happening for getting contacts for the future. Nobody is urged to have sex at that opportunity, seems like you believe that.

Same thing with your online love. Why are you getting stress? You have all time of the world. BTW, wait until you have seen her face and have heard her voice. That could be a surprising surprise... ;)

Good luck and keep cool!

Andrew,

Have you been reading my cheat sheets?

Ad infinitum.

Andrew has said it all. Read it again.

First things First....don't get drunk drunk sex is not all it's cracked up to be besides with all the bumping and grinding going on you wouldn't want to get sick all over her take your time and just be yourself forget the online girl until you at least get a pic, just because she says she is something doesn't me she is hookers are too risky especially the first time out.

i agree with all the guys....forget the drinks...just be yourself.....and take your time.....and get a picture of the online girl FIRST....i have seen some scary things online....so i can not say it enough.....GET A PICTURE

work on being her freind first ask her to the ball if
any thing happens betwen you then ok dont rush
but remember be safe use protection.also get blind
drunk or sex they dont work together
dam iam getting old i sounded like my dad then

Hey guys

Thanks for replying, i decided last night to ask the girl out to the ball, and she turned me down. I find out this afternoon that first thing this morning she asked a guy she had met last night to go with her, just to spite me. The bitch.

I guess i sound kinda desperate don't i? Ah well, hormones are probably the most annoying thing ever except for pubes and boy bands. I got a picture of the girl online, and she's pretty damn atractive. I found that she's got a lovely voice as well, so everythings turning out fine. Oh, and i WAS kidding about the hooker...

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Dont do the hooker thing.. I did, and it's not a great way to go. Shit, stop yer bitching, lad, your only 18.. I was 23 before I finally went and got laid... and after i went to the hooker, i was like, "is that it???" I didnt know how good sex could be till I got with a really good woman who knew her way around the bedroom.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: either losing or maintaining your virginity for the sake of doing so is a mistake.

i just dont understand the rush for you to lose your virginity.....hell i wish i had waited.......i say TAKE YOUR TIME.....and rush into nothing

Word of advise bro, dont rush your first time. Hell, dont rush any time for that matter. I know it gets tough and can be a pain in the ass but rushing leads to regret or at least confusion. Im not saying wait for the "right" one for you but dont leave your sex goggles on all the time looking for a girl. Doing so will get you laid but with what? You have plenty of time to do the 1 night things but the first time you have sex should be something special. Trust me, you will more than likely remember it. I did my first time and I wish I would have waited. Lost my virginhood at 16 with someone I met 1 day. It wasnt something I wanted to remember.

Man don't rush, I am 21 never been kissed and never had sex (and yes the avatar pic is the real me). I have had a few women try to get me into bed, but they weren't my type. The point is wait till you find a girl that you really want to be with and wants to be with you. It is not to hard to tell if they are just trying to de-virginze you. If you have know a girl for a bit and then she finds out your a virgin and is then suddenly all over you, DON'T have sex with her she is just gonna fly the coup as soon as she is done, leaving you feeling like damaged goods. Of course disregard what I said if you are looking for a quicky, but losing your virginity to a quicky makes most people feel as if the experiance could have been much better, and they are right!

So how was your college leaving ball? I'm guessing it will have happened by now?
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