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This has probably been asked before but i'm fairly new here. You see my boyfriend and I are virgins (wish to wait till we are married for sex-don't want to get pregnant, etc) We give each other oral most of the time and now he and I are both open to anal sex. How should we approach it the first time? He has fingered me a few times and he said i was real tight. What should we do to prepare? Any advice would be welcome. Thanx

You have a very loose definition of "virginity".

JadeFire, this is a great question.
The most important thing you can do is WANT it. Psychologically, if you're positive about it you'll find it so much easier physically.
The two other things you need to think about: lubrication and relaxation.
No matter how much lubrication you use, use more! Too much is nearly enough!

And be relaxed. Like I said, you need to want it, and be positive about it.

Make sure he takes it really slowly, and make sure he listens to you. Therefore, be sure to tell him how it feels. The very first penetration is the most important, he has to take it millimeter by millimeter until his head 'pop's through.

Some practice beforehand would be a good idea too, with dildos and pluggs, ideally different sizes too.

So whatever you do, don't rush it. If it hurts, stop, slow down and/or use more lubricant.

Hope this helps, good luck!!

CasperTG

Thanx a lot Casper!

i said i was a virgin cause i dont want to get pregnant, its not a loose definition i just dont want kids right now. i figure abstinance is 100% effective birth control and i never have to listen to parents call me a whore IF i did get pregnant. And one reason for other types of activity is to be sure i stay a virgin.

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i said i was a virgin cause i dont want to get pregnant, its not a loose definition i just dont want kids right now. i figure abstinance is 100% effective birth control and i never have to listen to parents call me a whore IF i did get pregnant. And one reason for other types of activity is to be sure i stay a virgin. [/
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as a bisexual guy i think we have two
virgintys my dick and my ass

I commend you on not wanting to get pregnant...I guess I just don't define virginity as everything but vaginal intercourse.

ROFL axe! and i guess virginity to me has nothing to do with sex really. Its more like when u give yourself fully to someone in the act of "becoming one flesh" a.k.a sex then you loose your virginity. so ppl who r rapped are still virgins in my opinion.... i dunno i think its just a me thing.... sorry i tend to rambled a lot...

err... you DO know that you CAN become pregnant even if you are a virgin? if the sperm gets from the anal opening and spills inside, it's likely it will have a home run b-cause i imagine - being virgin - you can't use a douche. So.. that's a bad excuse.

There's a big IF involved there - if we base our entire lives around remote chance If's - would anybody ever do anything ?

Anal Sex Tips
 

Dear jade:
There r many factors that make anal sex easier & more enjoyfull for u.

1- The lubrication: use as much as u can & choose a proper one
I think the best lubricant u can use is KY jelly or Moisturizing face creame. Don't use petrolium jelly (vaseline)!

2- The position: it's one of the most important factors in anal sex!
to my expirience the best position is to lay on ur back get ur ankles with ur hands and pull them to urself as much as u can
the other greate position is doggie style.

3- Relaxation: Remember! the more u think the less u enjoy!Just lay down and relax.The stresses may cause ur sphinctures tighten and cause a lot of pain. just relax and enjoy.Having an enema will help u alot for relaxation

anal is amazing....my girlfriend and i usually work up to it by having her have a few orgasms and relaxing and then it tarts with a finger and lube and then two fingers. take your time, relax and enjoy it. we find playing in the hot tub (or a hot bath) also helps her relax before we play.