I'm too big!
 

So Pixies, it's been a couple years and I've grown a lot - some of you might remember me, and to those - I say hia!

Well, my problem is this - I broke up with my girlfriend recently, one of the many reasons was because well... I can't get all the way inside her when having sex. I'm a pretty large guy and well, she is about 5'4.

If I go to far I hurt her and well... that is not always the most fun sex, as you can probably understand.

So - is there anything that can be done?

One of my friends said I shouldn't be regretful over this factor in my decision to break up... that sexual problems (like this) are a common reason for divorce later in marriages.

I don't know - I want to be with her again.

What does her height have to do with whether or not she is sufficiently turned on and lubricated enough to accommodate your size?

I think I see the key word that is getting more than it's fair share of ranking.

Lilith - It seems more like I'm hitting something, that she is too shallow

PantyFanatic: As in, I didn't just break up with her over the sex. We had relationship problems thaat we could have worked on.

I thought so too ;)

Was she complaining?

It's more of an "ow, don't go any further"

I couldn't be hitting her cervix could I? Cause... that'd suck

Hi techno, The problem is familiar to me. Nearly every woman whom has made love with me was apprehensive about my fully engorged penis making it all the way inside of her. In every case, I stopped, we slowed our advance and soon after some more play, sharing of hearts and some lubricating licking and softplay we were able to get the entire cock inside of her very wet, wanting vagina. Also, in every case I did reach the fullest depth inside of her lovely, revved up pussy without any discomfort. It was because I stopped and listened and took the helps seriously. We made love. I ruined a few. Of course, I'm ruined. The bigger the better in me! However, it is still true that size sometimes doesn't matter when the heart is fully involved!

your saying it doesn't matter how big you are?

I'm not a tiny girl, but I've never had a problem. A combination of lube, foreplay, and patience works...for men of *any* size.

As others have already said.. no it doesn't matter as long as she is turned on enough.

Correct, with extreme rare exceptions.
It is possible for an extraordinarily well hung man to attempt to fully penetrate a rather tiny woman with a porportionally tiny vagina. In that case the wmoan might be so incredibly sexually voracious that even a ridiculously massive cock won't phase her, or she's plumb daft; or the male in his maleness is as stupid as his cock is over sized (like his ego) and he proceeds to injure the woman and cause her tearing and probably long term vaginal complications. Bottom line: Sex is good and right. Forcefull copulation fucks up everything.

OK, just to add to what people have said here, the cervix is a mobile body part (ask any midwife). I don't really understand the mechanics of it, but I do know that it is capable of raising and lowering which something over which a woman does not have control.

From personal experience, I've noticed that Fussy sometimes struggles to make it all the way inside me these days but that we never had that problem back in the days when we were in a long distance relationship and always had about 2 weeks of mental foreplay before having sex. Obviously these days, with the pressures of not waking the baby, my tension sometimes about him hurting me where my stitches are and the obvious, been-together-five-years-and-see-each-other-every-day I'm probably less turned on than in those heady early days. I tell you this as a personal observation which supports other people's advice here - it's NOT a complaint about my own relationship. We're more than happy with our sex life.

Hiya TechnoGuy!

To touch further on what Loulabelle said...How long had you been with your ex TG? Was there ever a time when she didn't say, "Ow"? Was she your first and only thus far?

Because really hun...her height has NOTHING to do with the size of her vagina! I'm not any taller than your ex and I've been with a man I had to measure out of extreme curiousity. He measured 10 1/2" and 5 3/4" around. It was yummy for me because the sight of him turned me on soooooooooooo very much!

And conversely...a big man, in stature, doesn't necessarily make a big man with a big penis. We might need to see pics of you fully erect and next to a tape measure to judge what you might think is "too big"!















































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