Planning for First Time Sex
 

Would you recommend for someone to plan their first sexual encounter or to just let it happen naturally and spontaneously?

I'm always an advocate of spontaneity personally, at least for your first time. I feel like if you try to plan something like that, if even the littlest thing goes wrong you could feel let down, which is not the kind of first experience you wanna have. I know people who have planned their first time & it went wonderfully but for me sex shouldn't need to be planned ...

i agree naturel and spontanious worked for me LOL tho if the truth be told i think he probly had it planned out hehehehe so do what u r more comfy w, tho in me case evertime i plan out something like that it usually falls though and im diapointed so u never know go w ur heart hun.

~nikki~

You don't need to plan it out, but you should plan on having protection and a bunch of lube. Lube will make it better for I'm assuming your girlfriend? Especially if your using a latex condom, because she might be a bit nervous or if she is a bit dry.

Beat me to it, Recliner! I was going to say much the same thing!

I'm all for the spontaneous approach, but SOME forethought should be done so that there is protection. Unless you're planning a pregnancy on your first spontaneous sex! Lol! :)

CasperTG

Aunty Lil is so proud! Someone beat me to the condom convo:D

Be like a BoyScout and always be prepapred but try to let nature take it's course. If you spend too much fore-thought you may have unrealistic expectation or un-needed nervousness. Chemistry works if people just relax and let it!

Re: Planning for First Time Sex
 

Plan the contraception. Beyond that, let it be spontaneous--only do it when you both feel the time is right.

natural and spontanteous might be very romantic, but when you're getting sand in interesting places, it might help to have planned for a blanket or towel...

:-)

My first time was planned and it was a disaster. I was 18 and he just pushed it in, and was over in about 2 min, and hurt like hell. Next day he ignored me. Next time just happened with an older man I met at work...he was patient and kind and caring..and I learned to love sex. Oh and I agree on the condom, and the lube for the first time.

:daisy:

the best things in life are spontanious..

sex...

a smile...

laughter...

and with any luck... all at the same time :)

Good Luck...

and as they said above... plan only up to the condoms (and toys)... :)

well i guess i'm missing out on the best thing in life

IMO, it all comes down to the girl you're about enter. I find some girls are like a walking encylopedia: they give you instructions as you get nude and get in 'em, where as some explain it then say "Let's do it!" - others just let you ask questions and find out for yourself.

Ooh, there are so many exciting ways!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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