Pixies Place Forums - Tonguing the Alphabet...

NO NO NO!!!!
He means that due to a lack of imagination or education some men, while performing oral sex on their bed partners, move their tongues over the clitoris in a pattern as though they were writing the letters of the alphabet with the tip.
Loulabelle, if this works for you, then I am happy for you.
BUT!!!
To me and a lot of other women, it DOESN'T WORK!!
Well...ok, it works. I mean, it DOES feel good, and you can even make a responsive woman orgasm. But there are better ways!!!!
This is the difference between a nice "firecracracker" orgasm, and one that leaves us feeling happy, satiated, and completely wrecked!!!
I mean the kind of orgasm that leaves you wondering "Oh my God are the people in the next room calling the police because they think I have just murdered her?"
Men, the "tongue the alphabet" advice is the same as telling a woman that performing good oral sex on you is the same as licking a popsicle. It feels good, but how is it when compared to a truely enthusiastic, inspired and creative, hot, nasty, wet, "your brains are running out your ears" blow job?
Guys, when you are making love to a woman with your mouth, BE INSPIRED!!! BE ENTHISIASIC!! BE CREATIVE~~~~
Explore the wonder before you. Use your tongue to trace the edges, the hollows, the nooks and crannys of her vagina. Taste Her.
Make love to her pussy as though it were an entire person.
When you make love to a woman, her mouth, her neck, her breasts, her tummy, her navel, her pussy, her thighs, her feet, even her toes are all different. She feels (at least I and the women I know do) different things, different pleasures at each spot when you touch, stroke, caress kiss and taste them.
The same idea applies to that wonder before you. EVERY THING FEELS DIFFERENT!!!
A light whisper of a tongue to the clitoris along one side is not the same as a flat, slow swipe of your tongue, which is also not the same as a direct tease on the clitoris. Vary the pressure, the length (distance) and duration/speed of your tongue.
Pull gently at the hood or even the clitoris itself, with your lips NOT YOUR DAMN TEETH!! (unless she is used to it and asks for it)
Suck gently at this nub, it may be rewarding for you both.
Using your tongue, tickle the perineal area. Caress it, apply pressure to it. Kiss it. Flick your tongue back and forth up and down her lips. Spread her open with your mouth, and explore the inside of her pussy. Lick the walls of her vagina. Some women find this very new and exciting. There is an area in the front of the vagina, above the opening, near the bottom/back of the bladder, sometimes called the "G spot". What ever. It feels good to us when you touch it!!!! IF your tongue is long enough. If not use your finger(s). Which is the next part of this tiny tirade.

FINGERS!!! HANDS!!! Oral sex is not just done on a woman with your mouth!!!! TOUCH HER. Touch and caress her thighs, her perianal area, her tummy, -feel the muscles there twitch as you excite her (as in some women such as yours truly) Gently massage her bottom, oops, ***excuse me** her ASS. She may want you to touch her breasts, play with her nipples, she may not.
ASK HER WHAT SHE WANTS!!! What feel good. Maybe she wants a wet finger in her rear opening as you suck on her clit while lightly pressing your tongue to the hood in little wet tight circles, while your other hand has 3 fingers buried in her wet, sloppy clasping pussy in a counter-point rythm to the finger in her ass!!
That is the most important thing, we women are all DIFFERENT!!
i.e all cats (pussies) are NOT grey after midnight!!!

Yikes!!! No wonder there are so many bisexual women in the workd. We love men but we also want good oral sex.
And WE (WOMEN) have to take resposibility for that too!
We MUST tell him ( or her) what feels good, what feels wonderful and what makes us say "yes, keep doing that I am about to have a massive orgasm" (my own version of this is " oh God don't stop hold me lover I'm coming")
And what feels bad, annoying or even irritating, or just doesn't work for us.
GODDAMMIT TALK TO EACH OTHER BEFORE DURING AND AFTER.
Sometime this talk is in full sentences, but not always... especially that "during part". That conversation for me seems to be mostly moans, cries, whispers, sharp breaths, prayers, murmurs, sighs, and such... all good signals, good signs. All helpful.
BUT QUIT DOING THE DAMN ALPHABET!!!!
(unless she likes it and wants it)

Orally,

WW

(President -elect of the "BCSotW" (Better Cunnilingus Society of the World)