? about curiousity(sp)
 

For the past few years I have been very curious about being with a female. I have bi tendensies but not sure if i would say i am bi. I would love to have a woman caress my body and for me to do the same to her. Is it best for me to be with a woman that has done this before or should i get with awoman that is just as curious as i am??

thanks

buffay~
I have the same tendencies as well and never been with another woman. I think that either or are just great options though. :D

Giving in to bi curiosity is a wonderful thing.

I was hesitant at first myself, but once you get started it feels so natural.... :)

I was talking to a friend of mine about kissing another women, just joking about it and she was actually grossed out about it. I don't know if I'd want to go down on another women, but with a few beers in me I could definetly have fun caressing and kissing another women. Nice to know I'm not alone in that.

just make it clear to them that you have not done this before
and that you are not sure
a experianced woman would be able to guide you
but some one new as you would mean you learn to explore
together
its dificult to say which one woul be beter
but enjoy your self because sex is suspose to be fun

maybe I am naive...

BUT...

I believe (misguided as I may be), that EVERYONE has curiousity regarding sex with someone of the same gender. That being said, I believe that what makes the difference is how willing someone is to explore it... or even admit that the curiousity is there...

I have been curious about other women from the time I was about 9 or so... is it something that I would consider exploring? Probably not.. tho the exception would be if it were something that my partner desired to share with me, then I might consider it.

Yeah, there are people who... when the subject is brought up are completely outspoken against... but that is another thread.. about different issues (IMHO)

Try for a girl who's already had experience but understands that you might not want to stick around and are just looking for the experience. *shrug* Of course...that's what I did. And now I desire females almost exclusivley...but then again..my first girl was amazing :)

Just about half of the female friends I have are bi... (what does that tell you) and all of them prefer their own sex over the opposite. I don't blame them.

~Snake~

Like jennaflower, I tend to agree that most people have some degree of bi-curiousity.

I would just go for someone you trust and feel comfortable with. Age or experience are irrelevent in my opinion. It'd just be a mental thing depending on how you feel about the person.


Hope you have a great time and be sure to tell us how it goes! :D

CasperTG

Here is a question for you. From reading these posts it appears that a lot of pixie ladies are bi curious - but how many have actually done it ?

Tell us all about it

I have to say that my bi curiosity comes in waves. At one point in my life I was with a somewhat unrefined lover whose touch was often a little too rough for my taste. At this point in time I had a lot of curiosity.

Then I went through a time when I had no sexual contact what-so-ever and my desire was for PENIS and plenty of it! Now I'm getting that again, I do feel that same curiosity creeping back.

For me, any sexual experience with a woman would probably have to be in the form of some kind of group activity, probably so that there is at least something familiar to me there as a kind of safety blanket in case it all goes wrong.

I think you should choose a woman to whom you are attracted (that's always been the problem for me - I'm so damn picky!) and not worry about how much experience she has. The important thing is to communicate your lack of experience to her, so that she knows how to approach you.

And to Jogan - no I haven't ever done it, but I wouldn't rule it out.

I second darkfemme on this one. PLEASE make sure and make your intentions clear if you get involved with a lesbian/bisexual. I've had too many bad experiences with bi-curious women who weren't upfront about the whole thing and it can end up a great big mess (and not the good gooey kind). As for which would be better, experience or no experience, which was better for you in your first few straight sexual experiences? That might help figure things out.

I totally agree with lockbox and darkfemme; be sure you make your intentions clear so that you don't break any hearts due to a misconception of just what kind of experience/relationship, etc. you are looking for. Try approaching another woman the same way you would a man when it comes to getting to know them, etc.

I have always been attracted to both sexes, but I never acted on it until my ex and I split up after 22 years. I didn't before then because I believed in being monogamous; I didn't want to cheat with anybody--male or female. I decided after the split, however, that it was as good a time as any to act on that same-sex attraction.

Just like with men, I didn't want to jump in bed with another woman just because she was a woman and was willing to. I had to have an initial attraction and then get to know her, just as I prefer doing with men. My "relationships" developed, as a result, just as they always have with my male friends, too.

I have hesitated to let men I've dated since my divorce know about my bisexuality, because it seems like the first thing most of them want to do is drag in a woman off the street and expect me to go to bed with her...of course, with him hoping to participate or at least watch. I resented that. I wanted who I had sex with to be my decision, whether that person was male or female. Plus, I have made love to only two bi woman; all the rest have been gay. And the gay women had no interest in involving a man as a participant or voyeur (spelling?).

Also, I wonder how most people here would differentiate betweem being bicurious and bisexual. Or do you consider the terms to be synonymous? To me, bicurious sounds like you're saying that you really are heterosexual but are just curious as to what it would be like to have sex or make love with somene of the same sex. When I think of bisexuality, I think of someone who truly is attracted to both sexes, whether they've had a chance to actually have sex with both or not (just like virgins may be heterosexual, bisexual, or gay).

I can relate to you Blueswede, but mine has been the opposite reaction. My gf would like to have a threesome, but im not sure If I could handle it...