lube issue
 

Okay, my wife and I have been trying to experiment with anal sex. The problem is that whenever I stick anything in, she gets a burning stinging feeling. I think the reason for this is how we use the lube.

We've always started out with a single finger, then a slim 5" vibrator. The way I apply the lube is just squirting it on her starfish. I rub it around just a little then slowly start a pokin.

Would it be a better idea to smear the lube over my finger/vibe or what?

I would say to lube both you/toy and her but I'm also wondering, by the sound of it, if she is getting a reaction to the lube you are using. Because the burning stinging feeling sounds to me like an allergic reaction. The lube might work on the front door ok but sounds like the back door might disagree. If lubing you and her still causes a problem then try a different lube. Hope this helps. :)

I had considered both possibilities. One thing I left out was that it would only start doing that after a few minutes. That's long enough that raised some questions about it being her getting stretched. I still don't know what to do. All I can do is wait, She only gets in the anal mode occasionally, which I can understand with her experience thus far.

I was thinking about eating her out to the point that she's dripping cum and then mix that with my saliva and lube up her ass that way. Either that or in the shower. I figure if she's so horny she can't see straight, it'll make it easier for her to get past any bad feelings.

Any thoughts

One thing you have to remember. The anus is not self lubricating like a vagina. Depending upon your position, put more lube on your penis as you go in and around her anus.

Sharniqua's advice about using a syringe and injecting some lube into the anus is a good idea. This may help.

We also really try to stay away from water based lubes and use Eros or something similar. The water based lubes tend to get sticky and need more fluid to stay slippery.

Also, I don't know if she uses an enema prior to you guys trying anal. Tell her to not to, sometimes the enema will irritate the lining and cause the burning sensation.

Another suggestion. Use a condom (not one with sperm killer). That will allow the lube to stay slick rather than being absorbed by your skin...... just some suggestions.