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I know we have at least one Mistress among us, and maybe she can help me out.

My gf has the dark and deep desires to dominate someone. On the other hand, she loves me enough and thinks that if she really shows her deep dark and bad side, that I will get scared and wont want to be with her. Now this isnt the case, but I really dont have any desire to live in that sort of relationship. However, It might be interesting to try it out during lovemaking. Can you give me some pointers and advice on how to handle this situation. I have a slight idea of how it works, but im not sure what I need to do to protect myself, and her from cross a line. I really have no desire to suffer pain or humiliation, but I wouldnt mind giving up control in the bedroom to her if it would bring us more pleasure.

SAFE WORDS!!!!!

Make sure you agree on a safe word BEFORE you start.... something unsexy, like "Shoelace" that you can say if she does something that's too much - then she can back off. Sometime shouting "no! no!" can be part of the game :)

Other than that, just set aside some time to introduce her dark side to you, and decide how submissive you are and are willing to be with her..... Let yourself go a bit, it could be heaps of fun! Just decide on rules beforehand, what you definitely can't do, what she definitely can't do, etc....

All things equal, you've got nothing to lose really, just enjoy yourself!

CasperTG

alot of people don't live in the D/s lifestyle and are rather "vanilla" in life...but that doesn't mean people don't enjoy it behind bedroom doors *grinz* it's always worth a try and if you don't enjoy it then you can always say you tried.......and I agree with Casper...a safe word is key...

Airhog~ First thing is you have to decide is exactly how submissive you are willing to be. Are you willing to trust her implicitly even if just for a short time?

I would suggest you give her 1 night (for starters). You can do it up cute. Make a "slave" contract. In the contract stipulate your safe word and any absolute restrictions (although I think she should know you well enough to know what you might hate.........of course that is exactly what I would use then :p). Give her a time period say from 6 pm to 10 am. Then at 6pm get on your elbows and knees at her feet and await instruction. If you really wanna encourage her, buy her some sexy fetish clothes or accessories, a crop is a great starter, maybe even a book by a Dom! Give her the contract and all, in a box wrapped with a bow.

This is a great way to start! Then you can figure out what you like and don't. D/s can be a 24/7 lifestyle or just an enhancement to sex.

Sex is like a library............need lots of different types of books to keep it interesting, no one wants to read Tom Sawyer for the rest of their life:p

The answer to your question is simple! Just come and see me. Ill show you.

Just backing up what Lilith said...no better advice than that.

As usual I spotted this thread after it was out of sight for over a month,,,,, hehe. Thats me, always a day late and a dollar short.

Anyhow, you might find this site interesting. It was given to me by a very dear friend. I haven't looked at it entirely yet. But found it to be very good so far. Good luck and have fun.

http://www.castlerealm.com/

Teddy :) :D

Great link Teddy.....looks like I've got some reading to do ;) :D

castlerealm is an awesome site with a lot of good advice!

I would also have to recommend the BDSM forum at Literotica. They provide alot of information on a wide variety of BDSM topics.