Sex wed for the first time(questions)
 

Well, this wednesday a friend of mine(girl) and myself are going to have sex. I mean the WHOLE 9 yards, oral, anal, everything. I never had oral, kissed a girl, nothing. I am a very attractive person but am very conscience of my penis size. I am a whole 5 1/4 inches and that is something that has held me back from sex to be honest. All of these girls that i talk to say they have never had anyone 6 inches or shorter and I am feel like shit when I hear that. Am I really THAT short?

Any tips for the first time on all of this? She is a very horny girl so she is up for everything so I figured I would just do it all, lol. She is on the shot to and no STDS so ya think I should just go without a condom?

Wear a condom. The shot is not 100%.

A lot of women like a bigger penis... but I have heard a lot more say that there is more to a good lover than his size.

Just go with it and have fun.

Well, am I considered small though?

On average, I don't believe so. It mainly depends on your partner. Some women are smaller than others when it comes to penetration, while others can handle a big penis easily. Try not to worry about yourself compared to the rest of the male population... focus on the experience you will have with this partner.

Oh I know but I really just wanted to know where I stand in size in comparison to the male population.

Also I wanted some first time tips.

Q. What do you think is the length of the average man's erect penis?
A. 5-7 inches


The Kinsey Institute New Report on Sex (St. Martin's Press, 1990), p. 18.



Not very informative, huh?

But the follow up their answer with "The vast majority of men measure within the average genital size range and have a penis size that is more than adequate for sexual functioning. In general, at erection smaller flaccid pensises lengthen by a greater percentage than do larger flaccid penises." For what it's worth.

Like Aqua said...don't worry about where you stand in comparison to the rest of the male population, enjoy the experience with her.

hell hun it dont matter!!! and, for anal , the smaller the better (IMHO i know its not the 100% rule there but it feels better for ME not to have something HUGE inthere) have fun and no hun ur not small, small was a guy that i was with back a few (6 i think) years ago, he was 2 maybey 2 and a half hard. didnt stop him and i from havin a good time!!!

~nikki

dude,

just have fun - don't worry - you are around average, and to be honest it is what you do with the girl that counts.

my advice, take your time, enjoy a lot of foreplay, get both of you warmed up and excited!!! enjoy it.

a good way to start is to give each other full body massage, and then explore each others bodies - with both fingers, lips and tongues - spend as long as you possibly can doing this, this will relax you both, and get you both hot for whats to come.

i would say wear a condom, better safe than sorry :)

Wear a condom, wear a condom, wear a condom. If you have to ask, for any reason, wear the condom.

I can understand your concern, definitely, I've had the same concern (to a lesser degree than I once did, though I've still not done it yet :( ) and from what I've heard (and I have discussed this at length, if you'll pardon the pun), 5 1/4" should not cause you embarrassment and if you pay sufficient effort and attention to her pleasure you should be fine :) You shouldn't discount the possibility that your female friends are exaggerating their partner's sizes, I have heard it alluded to that because the "bigger is better" philosophy is so ingrained in some women that they will attribute a skilled partner more size because he felt so good and therefore, must be big. Or I could just be bullshitting, but I think it's worth considering. Either way, try to relax and have fun :) Easy to say I know, but that's probably the best thing to do.

According to most statistics I've seen, you would be in the average range.

Well you guys are really making this easier on me for sure, thanks. :)

The condom bit, I would LOVE not to wear one. She is on the shot and she said she has been tested(does that happen when she goes for the shot?) I feel pretty good about it.

Nothing kills the mood like a crying baby.

LMAO SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO TRU


~Nikki

1 in 4 college students have V.D. The shot prevents only babies not death or disease.

Read Ginger's advice I just quoted and take it as a commandment. I think you only feel pretty good about it because YOU don't want to wear one.

Ask yourself two questions...

Do you want a baby?

Do you want an STD?

If the answer is Yes or I Don't Care to either of those then by all means, forget the condom.

If the answer is No, which I would hope is the case, then you need to put a condom on. In your quote above is the key phrase "she said". Just because she said it happened does not mean it did, or that the test results were clean. I am not saying she is lying to you, but I am saying you don't know that she isn't. Some people are to embarrased to admit they have an STD. There are also women that will lie about being on birth control. Again, I am not saying this girl is like that, but unless you were with her in the Dr's office, you don't know.

And I stress once more... even if you did know, for a fact, she had the shot and is STD free... the shot is not 100% effective. No method of birth control is... wear the condom and take the precaution.

I'm Aquaman, and I approve this message.

/me wanders away singing...

"All I want for Christmas is an STD...an STD...an STD"

to the tune of "Two front teeth"


LMAO

Lmao @ ^^^^. :D :D :D

Lol, you guys are crazy.

I know you guys are right about the condoms. But what do most of you guys do when you have sex if your girl/wife who is on birth control. Obviously you don't wear a condom. STD's are a bitch but if the girl said she is on the shot do they not test her there for STD's when she gets the shot?

I know I am pushing for the no condom thing but I would like to see what you say about my questions above.

even if her results came back clean , if shes willing to go condomless w u , that means shes done it before, and i was always taught (and it has been awilhe so i may be way otta date here) but some STDs take a wile to show up in ur system , when i was going to school they always told us HIV cud lie dormant for 7 yrs. now, that cud be totaly BS but it always made me use a condom. lol. like i siad i totally dont kow if that is a fact or something my teachers told me to scare us . if yall know for sure please let me know.

~nikki

No she does not necesarily get tested at the time...depends on where she got it done. You have made it clear she is experienced, do you think she has been celibate since she was tested? Think? Know? 100% sure? Why risk it?

Just out of curiosity how old a person are you?

It's irrelevant what happened when she got the shot. It doesn't matter.

You should wear a condom.

As far as most of us guys that have a girl/wife. A lot of us are in committed relationships, which is not the same as just having sex with 'a friend'. And even then, there are some that still wear a condom anyway, more so as birth control then a barrier against STD's.

You're comparing apples to oranges. What one does in a long-term relationship is different than what one does in a new relationship.

Of course I don't use a condom with my wife. We've been married 16 years. There's no way she could conceive even if she wasn't past menopause. She's not the type to screw around. The risk is minimal. (Not zero--she sticks about 10,000 needles/year into people and accidents do happen.)

However, if I had to find a new partner I certainly would use a condom. At the point that your relationship is strong enough that you trust your partner's fidelity then you wait 6 months and get tested. If you're clean you can dispense with the condoms.

Not that I'm an expert, but especially if you have anal you should use a condom. The backdoor is quite a bit more sensitive than the front, meaning that it isn't designed to give quite as readily and the membranes are much thinner (again, not designed for repeated withdrawl and entry) and more prone to damage. Chances of her getting a little raw back there and bleeding a little bit are pretty good, especially if she's new to it. A condom actually decreases that risk.

Plus, the ass's central purpose isn't sex. Even if she's sparkly clean, there are microscopic things that live back there that neither of you want getting into the wrong biological places.


Other than that, have a great fuckin' time.

One more piece of advice, you might want to pull one off early in the day so you don't bust a nut too early.

Well I already told her that I wasn't going to masterbate 2 days prior to the sex event. She wants a ton of cum, and she didn't care if I finished quickly as we will fuck for about 2 hours. She is clean, and I think I am not going to use a condom. I want to bust a nut inside her, and she wants me to do that as well. :love:

Good luck with that!

dude

wear a condom!!!

i only ever not worn a condom when i was in a long term relationship - for anything else, it is really better to be SAFE THAN SORRY!!!!

Well guys I did it. It was strange at first but things went great. I didn't wear a condom though so hopefully that doesn't BIT me in the ass. But I gave it to her pretty hard, lol.

Anyways, thanks for the advice and hopefully things work out for me.

I don't see what's supposed to be so good about giving it to her hard. We both prefer it gentle until the last few seconds.

^^ Actually, she TOLD me she wanted it really hard. I communicated with her fantastically, asking what she did and didn't want. I was surprised how comfortable I became after we started.

She LOVES if rough, so I gave it to her rough.

I just got a chance to read this thread and I've got to say I am sooooo disappointed!

I'll start by saying...Welcum to Pixies sexystud34! I wish I didn't have to say what I am about to say...but I feel compelled.

I don't know very much about you except what I've read in this thread. From this alone I am making the observation that you didn't come to the Advice Forum for actual advice...but more for a confidence builder, and then (after the fact) to brag! You asked many questions and then just disregarded the well intended and intelligent advice offered. I don't see your point in asking when it seems you had your mind set before the goal. I might be out of line here...but if I had been involved in this thread initially (like our fellow Pixies above me) and read your last reply...I'd feel used! If you'll notice...not many have spoken to this subject since your last post...and I bet I know why.

Of course...it's your life and you have to live with your actions, but some really concerned friends have tried to give you their best advice with no reason other than we care when someone asks questions and needs help and is inexperienced and seems to be taking a road that may not be the best for them and all involved. Most of the Pixies that replied here have life experience that can truly help others...if the advice is heeded and truly appreciated. I guess what I'm saying is...if you ask a question and you get 15 "same" answers and then you do the opposite anyway...you get what you deserve in the end! I hope with all my heart that all you got from your experience is a busted nut and a new g/f! I can imagine so many things going so wrong with the experince of that one evening...as you explained it!

I wish you well sexystud34!

Another late arrival to the thread.

Sexystud34, you were going to do what you were going to do, so why ask the questions?

You've pulled the pin and hopefully, for your sake, it's a dud.

Size issues can be dealt with by reading the Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana, who talks

about ladies and gents of differing capacity and volume. It's to do with meeting someone

who matches you, and then rocking your worlds in harmony. Easy on the curry.