Sex with a Married Person
 

Ever had sex with a Married Person ? Is it wrong to Be the "Other" In a Relationship ? I have Never Done It , And Have Never Cheated .

Nope.. never been with a married man... atleast not that I know of... altho the thought of doing so is inticing.. I don't think that I could do it...

I've been with a married woman, she was seperated but still married.

I have sex with a married man quite often.. hehehe... ;)

I always thought it was ok to have sex if you were married................... or did you mean married to eachother? ;)

Hey!

Every time I whack off, I'm having sex with a married person!

i used to not care weather the guy was married or not....in my older years , ive not had sex w any guy whatsoever except MY husband. in all honesty , if he cheated i wud not blames the girl id blame him its not her fault . just my mentality tho, ive had so many friends call me crazy but i cant help the way i feel. LOL

~nikki~

Re: Sex with a Married Person
 

Having been married 15 years I certainly have!


As for the question you are asking: It would depend on the state of the primary relationship. To me the immoral thing is not having sex with a married person, but acting so as to risk harm to their relationship. There are a lot of marriages where the relationship has already failed but they simply haven't split up for whatever reason. I see nothing wrong in being the other in such a situation. Trying to seduce a happily married person, though, I see as wrong.

Nope, I've never "had" a married lady. And I don't intend to, even if the most gorgeous one turned up on my doorstep now. I believe it is wrong.

Yeah, I have slept with married women when I was single...twice. In both cases, they were the seducers.

Never after I got married, though (except of course with the Mrs).

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i've been asked to have sex with a married man...was at a bar and he was in town for a funeral from texas and when we went to dance he asked me to leave with him but i couldnt do it. i guess i just look at it this way--if i ever got married, i dont want another woman sleeping with my husband. i cant do something like that to someone when i dont want it done to myself

I think I'm just an old hippy, I thiink sex is there for the enjoying and ther is nothing wrong with it.

I can't say I'd rule it out. Like Jennaflower said, the thought of it is very enticing...I guess I'll make that decision when the opportunity presents itself. :eek:

For me it depends on the reason you are playing around with a married person. If you are just playing to play that is one thing but if you are playing for keeps then that is quite another.

I've had sex with a married person(s). Whether it's wrong depends on the circumstances I gues. It's all fun and games till someone loses an eye, arm, sexual organ or sees a lawyer.

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(that's pretty close to say I agree with you;) )

well, Dm is still legaly married (seperated) so~~~~~I guess I do.........but would never be the "other" person in a relationship, knowingly

What you mean for regular "meet-ups" ? (coz if that's what you mean, I agree).

Yes I have........but it was ok....cause his wife was there too!

On another note..........my husband (now husband) and I had sex while I was still married to another......but seperated......

and so it goes.......................

Oh geez........just say why ya asked the question hun! Not to mention........may I sit on your seat? Um........that king/queen seat I'm hoping you have!!!!???

*blink, blink*

Yes, I have. Neither of us were getting our needs met at home although we never had any intention of leaving our spouses. It's been going on for over a year, and so far we've been able to keep it a secret. Not much is happening between us anymore, but it's just a matter of circumstances keeping us apart. I'm not proud of it, but if I was getting what I need at home I never would have gone outside my marriage. I tried and tried to get thru to my husband but he just couldn't or wouldn't understand how much I needed him.

The Reason I asked the question was that I see it happening alot (Cheating) As I said I have never done it , and won't . I was wanting others views .
Yes You can sit on my "P" Pad , dress warm cuz it's cold in Pa. right now :D

Hummm If you were so unhappy at home why not leave , then find someone to make you happy , understand I am not Judging , I am just curious . I am told that most women do not cheat for the sex , it the emotional needs that they are looking for , and you said you had no intention of leaving your spouse . Oh well I have been told my views are old fashioned anyway , should have been born a couple hundred years ago . No offence just tring to understand .

I'm not her but what she said makes sense. What if you love your spouse but there's some big problem with the sex?

Define Big Problem , The last time I heard the vowes they Said for better or worse in sickness and health , so If you Really loved them you would not be stepping out .

I have to agree with Lorn and Sugarsprinkles
Harley you say for better or worse but it does not say you have to jail for the rest of your life if one side of the marrage is not meeting the needs of the other. Would love to chat to you about this so I can say what I really want too.

I don't know...

I guess I would sleep with a married person, but only if I knew that person was seperated or they had an open relationship. I don't think I could do it otherwise. I would hate for their partner to find out and be the cause of splitting up a marriage or a family, just for sex.

Besides which, I'd hate for it to be done to me when I get married. It would make me feel so betrayed. I would much prefer (in the long run) to be told it's not working out. I'd rather be told I wasn't satisfying him and he wanted more. I think I'm open minded, I'd let him do whatever he wanted as long as long as he wasn't sneaking around behind my back like it was a dirty secret. And as long as he was safe. And of course that at the end of the day it was me he'd be coming home to (for love)... otherwise he might as well leave me there and then.

I can see what everyone's saying but this is something that affects people personally. Depends on exactly what your definations are and your points of view. Some people who say it's cheating, others would disagree. I don't think it's wrong as such, I just couldn't knowingly hurt someone (the other person) but that's just me.

I talk too much... lol.

it's a tough situation to be with, but as the un-married lady, i would have to say that it's all down to the man. he's married and has everything to risk, i'm single and have nothing. it's not my conscience that will be working on over-ride, but his. and if he's willing to risk everything.... is he happy in the first place?
but, i am sure there are many different views... as with every topic!
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I was in a very unproductive marriage and I didn't have an affair.

Mind you I didn't look and if some was offered to me I don't know what my reaction would have been.

I turned down several married women trying to seduce me as a young man. I felt it was the wrong thing to do.

It is a personal judgment call

i've fucked a married woman interested in experiencing lesbian sex. i noticed she was married the next day, bugger.

I had a 6 month affair with a married man when I was 20 and afraid of sex. He taught me how to enjoy it. I am married and am having an affair with another woman, my hubby knows about it, and tolerates it. At my age (43) don't think I would cheat with another man, married or not, but have with cyber sex. Is cyber with another person (married or not) constitute cheating?

I will fuck a married bi-curious or bi woman because I am interested in broadening their horizons, and because other women make just make me horny.

I think so...........well,that is,unless it's me your having cyber with

I was a married person who had a single lover. As long as everyone's aware and consenting, I think it's dandy.

Me too...but he only wants me to have female lovers in real life...cause he knows it is a part of who I am...I don't usually cheat on him with men...but (blush) have...:hot:

I agree,It doesn't say"for better or worse,unless you want other
things".It says "For Better or Worse"!If you can't take the WORSE,
then you shouldn't take the vow.I have been called "old fashioned"also,but that's how I feel. Irish
P.S.I'm sure many will disagree with this,but thats my $.02.
If your SO agrees,"fine",but if you're not honest with them,then as far as I'm concerned,you have no relationship.You have to consider,how you would feel,if the shoe was on the other foot!

I have been the other woman, and it's a role I did not relish and was not happy with. I do not think it's right, but more than that it is not a healthy role to take.

I have a friend who has been 'the other woman' for quite a few years now, and it suits her, because I think she can only commit so much of herself to a relationship anyway, so it seems to suit her.

I have had sex with a married women who lied to me - telling me she was divorced, it was only later when I discoverd she was married, I don't think I would have done it if I'd have known.

In my own defense...the divorce papers HAD been signed by all parties weeks before, they just hadn't completed processing yet ;). But I didn't know that at the time...I thought he meant the thing had gone through.

So I may have sinned in fact, but not in spirit.

Honestly, I don't think I'd sleep with a married person unless it was an acknowledge liason within an open marriage. Again, it's that do unto others thing, I wouldn't want it done to me.

But even with that, I think it's tough to judge what other people do or have done or would do. Lives are big, tough, COMPLEX things. Marriages involve at least two lives, and are much more than doubly complex. So unless you've lived someone else's life, you can't possibly judge them fairly. And what you think, even if just your own opinion, might come across as hurtful to someone already in a less than easy position. I'm not saying we can't have opinions...opinions, as my grandmother used to say, are those things that happen between thoughts. But we can be gentle rather than judgemental about how we express them. Most folks, when you get right down to it, are really just doing their best.

Yep. All the time. My wife. She wouldn't have it any other way. :D :D

:( Oh, that's not what you meant. :(

Someone please explain....
 

because I truly don't understand. If it is your SO that you really need, how can someone other than your SO satisfy you?

I've heard the same thing over and over..."my needs weren't being met, I need him sooo much, I didn't have any choice, it just happened....".
I think its bullshit. If we need and want our partner, then only our partner can satisfy our needs.