a psychological question
 

i have a bit of a psychological question, why do caning pictures turn me on?(by me i mean anyone like me really) i don't enjoy pain myself and i don't like to see other people get hurt, i ussually feel really bad when i see someone get hurt yet caning really turns me on, why is this?:confused:

Is it because you got birhtday presents with it yesterday?:confused:



lol Welcome to Pixies.:) I'm sure somebody here will have an answer to your question.

Well, this is a simple disorder to diagnose. The root cause of these irrational feelings is




BECAUSE YOU ARE A VERY NAUGHTY BOY! GET OVER MY KNEE THIS INSTANT!

Interesting question. I suppose it's a little like enjoying a horror film where in real life you may get very upset with barbarity or cruelty or violence. I suppose many of us have these kinds of contradictory feelings.

BTW, welcome to Pixies, ZX-93. Relax and enjoy, it's a great place to be.

Cause caning is sexy as hell when it's between 2 consenting adults.:D

Interesting question. I was talking with someone oh Yahoo just yesterday, and we were discussing things that turn people on. I talked about something and she couldn't understand why it turned me on. She was curious and wanted to know exactly why it was arousing to me. How can I answer that?

Why does something turn you on? Genetic predisposition? Nature vs. Nurture? I'm sure someone with a psych background might be able to give a better reason. All I know is that it really isn't bad to like things that aren't really mainstream.

Be happy to be different.:D :cool:

Did you attend a school with strict teachers?

I FEEL THE SAME TOO

I have a feeling it is because you have a guilt complex (gaining sexual pleasure from the witnessing of the act) and feel the need to be punished.

Or you had a really, really hot teacher that used the cane but you were too much of a goody-2-shoes to ever receive it.

I did 2 years of psychology you know. *LOL*

lmao @ White Noise

Hey, I was being serious!! ;-)

It must be that "whap, whap" sound....damn just came in my pants.

I figure the most likely reasons for these feelings are:

1) You secretly have a spanking fetish (either giving or receiving)

2) You have, at some time or another, experienced great pleasure
while seeing the image of someone being caned.

3) You're just a little bit on the perverted side like most of us can
be at times here at pixies!

How is today different than any other day for you? :D

OMGGGG! I muttered these words to myself, before I scrolled down to your post Steph! Nearly verbatim! LMAO!

What she said!

I asked a psychologist friend about something similar, not necessarily caning, but the idea of being over someone's knee and being spanked, how that really sparked something inside.

He said perhaps it was because i have a guilty conscience about the things that appeal to me sexually and i see the spanking as punishment for this.

Thing is though, i don't feel shame at all, it just makes me tingle all over.

Welcome to Pixie's.

See, I said I was being serious. 8-)

Just thought I'd add my own 2 cents worth here...

I think things like spanking and caning are such a turn on because it's just fantasy. It's not reality. The person who it's happening to wants it - if they didn't, I don't think that would be much fun to watch anyway. I want to see the person on the receiving end having a good time while getting a healthy dosage of pain too.

It stops being healthy when the person doesn't want it to happen. That's not sexy. They both have to be into it.

That's the great thing about fantasies though. The reason safewords exist is so that when things get out of hand they can be ended. I don't think there's anything wrong liking spanking, caning, etc. as long as the people involved know their limits and can stop if things don't go as planned.

Personally, I'd love to be given a good spanking or caning! :)

I disagree on one point. Caning is not a fantasy at all. However, it is an exciting reality if the 2 people involved are consenting as Lil said.




And I'd love to accomodate your wish.
:D

Maybe I need to rephrase what I said...

When I say fantasy I mean it isn't like being violently hurt by someone. There's a limit to how far someone will take something, go beyond that and it stops being sexy and fun... Caning is an extension of sexual pleasure but violence (being beaten, punched, raped, etc.) is an extension of power. Sometimes that line can be crossed, but when it's about power over someone as opposed to sexual desire, that's when it stops being a turn-on.

Demonstration of power; turn-off. Sexual desire for pain; turn-on. I don't expect people to agree, just saying what I think (hoping I make sense!). I believe the two can be combined (power, sex) in a healthy way, as long as both adults consent completely.

But I still stick by what I said. :) I define fantasy as something you long to do, but that doesn't limit it to being inaccessible. Many fantasies are within reach. To me, fantasies are not limited to the mind - they're there to act out should the person want to. Personally, I would like to try out my fantasies one day and in which case they would be part of reality, but they would be no less a fantasy for them being acted upon...

I don't know if I make sense... Whatever I think in my head comes out wrong when I write it down, but I was basically agreeing with Lilith... Only I had more stuff to say... Some people say I talk too much, but I don't know why... lol. ;)

Navarre, honestly I'm trying to agree with you, lol. I don't always have the right words to though... Did I make it clearer?

And... I'd love to let you accomodate my wishes! :hot:

*stops talking nonsense*