Revy,
No one is saying you're not entitled to your opinion. But your text fairly shouts anger and condemnation, and a bit of preaching, too, and I think that's what people are reacting to. You're obviously hurting, and have some deep wounds. But lashing out isn't going to help, only create new wounds. These folks aren't your enemy.

I give up.

I promise not to post another word but if you do ever PM me, I will respond in a respectful manner.

THE END..........


:p

Does a married couple count?

I would assume it would.

I have sex with a married guy all the time. My husband.

I've never cheated, neither has he (and yes, I can say that without any doubt or hesitation). I can say that I'd never settle for being the "other" in a relationship, and personally feel that if a person has to look outside their marriage to be satisfied (without consent or knowledge on a spouses part) that the marriage is already over. I feel rather strongly about it. Why drag a marriage out if you're already looking elsewhere? There's no commitment left on your part, there's obviously something wrong in the sexual department, so why not just get the divorce, and be free to sleep around.

I'm not directing that at anyone, btw. It's just how I feel about the matter.

It's not "cheating" if it's consentual among all parties involved, IMHO.

I am one of those strange people without a possessive personality.

As long as it's OK with the wife, and on her specific terms( read as with her presence in the same general vincinity) it's OK ...

3 couples with her, and 1 consenting married female previous to this relationship.

I've been married for a long, long time. I've got to admit that I've been tempted but haven't yet. My sexual level is much higher than my wifes so that has lead to fantasy's with other people. I don't believe I could just do it but i don't REALLY know.... I could do it if she participated but I don't believe that will ever happen.

So I guess I'm just stuck with an overactive mind & libido