BiSexBabeDD - I like the way you think! I got my oral education from my babysitter wnd am so thankful she was able to "talk" me thru the first few times- after that it's been moan and scream city any time I find a willing partner. I too have a SO that can't handle it, she says "Too Much! Too much!" and makes me stop beforeI can really get going.

AND THERE YOU HAVE IT PEOPLE :) IT TRULY WILL WORK IF THE OTHER PARTY IS WILLING TAKE NOTES !!! OR BETTER YET GO ALONG WITH THE MOVIE IF IT DOSEN'T WORK THE FIRST TIME,WELL HEY YA CAN ALWAYS REWIND !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry it took me so long to respond. I did get to do something with my bf this weekend, it's not much though. I initiated 69 (my first time!!!) He was a bit nervous at first but I told him to use his fingers until he felt comfortable. We both liked it, even though he never did substitute his tongue for his fingers. I finally just stopped him.
For those of you who say I should break up with him you should know that I'm not. This may sound like a cheesy line from a love story or a "chick flick" but I love him and that is more important than whether or not he eats me out cause he does satisfy me in many other ways.

:)

Sarah

P.S. We made a video ;)

Glad to hear it S.B...Its a start thats great :) And hey if he's open to making a vid then thats veryyyyyy promising !!! Really if you love someone that much then you go for it...hope it go's well.

Actually it was his idea to make the video...I was kinda like maybe some other time but then I agreed. But as usual, You are right

:)

Sarah

Oh please...put your chemistry aside for a moment.
Look at what sort of satisfaction you get from being with him and if that really out weighs his inability to do something with you that you really want. If the pluses outweigh the minuses then fine, have your “chick flix” moment. But consider wisely what were his motivations are and how maturely and seriously he takes this relationship. What were his motivations for making the vid? Who holds the vid? I mean what sort of commitment did he make to you? He sounds like the kind of guy who might have the guys over to watch the vid and boast of how he fucked you. If that happens are you ok with it or do you then feel like trash? Only you can answer these questions. But expect the worst from guys generally they will not disappoint you.

South, is that what you would do? FYI we watched the "vid" once (not even all the way through) and then we burned it. It takes one big jerk to think up some scheme like that you know? In fact...I was hoping that more of these posts would be supportive instead of telling me to dump my bf. Thank you to the ppl who offered advice that I needed. I am not going to dump my boyfriend because I am not getting laid the way I want to. That is simply not done! Who do you think I am? Some little whore looking for a good time?

South~your comments were uncalled for.

Sarah, glad to hear you finally got him to at least give it a try again. Next time just tell him to get in there and lick everything, when something feels good...by all means tell him. Moan, shiver, scream, let him know somehow. Just my personal technique, I've always used a combo of fingers and tongue. Maybe suggest to him that he finger you while licking your clit. Then later in the session he can replace his fingers with his tongue. At least that way he'll have a heads up on where to go the next time. Good Luck hon!!!

I have to agree with lil on this one it definently doesn't get better with time, I was married for 9yrs and my ex made only one misserable attempt at it in the early years but would never do it again, and made no excuses except that he didn't like the taste of fish, which I didn't think was a very nice comparison. Well it never did improve and infact our sex life in general deteriorated more and more over time despite my attempts to improve it, to the point that I eventually had enough and left him a year ago.

SB---Could it possibly be out of embarrassment?My wife always
orgasmed;wonderfully;from that;but doesn't want me to do it
very often;because it was known as a "dirty perversion"when we
were younger.In our youth;women didn't even admit to masturbating.After we were married;we had an honest talk;and it
turned out that she masturbated almost every night!Have an honest talk with him and tell him that it's what you desire!I can tell you;after 30+yrs of marriage;that if he cares about your feelings;he will at least;make an effort! Irish
P.S.Just my $.02.The gate swings both ways!

No, actually I would do whatever my girlfriend wanted in the bedroom, even if I wasn't enamored with the notion. Am I weak for saying this?, I don’t think so. When I was dating, lo those many years ago when I was just a little spud, I thought that if I really cared and trusted someone enough to maintain a sexual relationship with them then I was committed to making that relationship work. That means give and take. What impressed me in your previous postings that your B/F was pretty good at the take part and not so good at the giving part. It was from what you told us of his past actions that I based, hopefully falsely, my character assination of your B/F.
In the scheme of things you are young and I assume that your B/F is young also. At an early age Women seem to grab a handle on how to maintain a relationship better than men do. In general guys do some stupid stuff. That dosen’t make them necessarily bad guys. They just make stupid choices. (Just look at the car Insurance tables if you need proof of that) It would be foolish to assume that at this point in your lives you two have the same level of emotional maturity. I hope that I am wrong, For your sake I hope that this guy in “Mr. Perfect” or at least “Mr. Perfectly fine the way he is thank you very much”

My comments were rash and I am sorry for that. In no way did I mean to impune your integrity. I just think, once again based on only the information I have read, that this guy may not be the best match for you. You are an exceptionally beautiful woman and you seem sensitive and sincere. You deserve happiness. Don’t settle.

Well, I don't get it. Eating out a woman has got to be one of the most pleasurable experiences to have. I love it when I feel her legs tighten, her breathing faster...

Maybe you could try flavouring?

Well as long as you are satisfied with what he gives you then...well, I guess there are no problems. I won't comment on a lot of this thread but I will say this, I find it strange that there is no reciprocation...what one does, one should recieve, and vice versa, but hey that is just me. I like to give back what my lover gives to me, not only to show my appreciation and or love, but also my desire to please her.

Hi Smiles Beautiful

It looks like I'm coming in late to this discussion. My spin on this would be that you are both young and as long as you have open minds it is not too late to learn. Nobody is an immediate expert but it is great fun gaining experience. The main thing is for it not to become an issue between you. Encourage him with mutual kissing and licking over your bodies but avoiding the genitals. Then slowly move closer and deeper. Have fun experimenting ;)

Well here is the deal as of a few days ago and today. I found out the real deal by being annoyingly persistant...I'm sure guys know how women can be... Anyway, he flat out told me he didnt like it. Now I feel bad cause I kept asking him to this whole time!! He also said he's not going to ask me to go down on him anymore. But I like doing it! What about that??? Another thing...this should make all the men at Pixies so happy. I'm single now! And no, I didn't dump him. I wouldn't do that in a million years. So I guess I don't need anymore tips...right?