Interesting that you'd call it success, I'd call it something very different :(

Sorry Belial......I didn't realize you are disappointed to still be a virgin.:confused:

Oh well...that's what you get when you're boring and unattractive.

If this is how you see yourself, chances are others will see you that way too.:(

Well this may surprise some people, but I must fess up and add myself to the list here. eeek, I need to start chatting women up more.

What's your definition of a virgin?

IMO, if you have had anal or oral sex, you ain't no virgin. I may be wrong, but I define "virgin" as never had:

1. Vaginal sex
2. Anal sex
3. Oral sex

If your body has been penetrated by a dick in any holes on your body, I really don't believe you're a virgin.

But this is just my opinion, I could be wrong....

my gf's aunt is like nearly 40 some years old and still a virgin, but if you met her you would understand ;)

Murphy,

Defining virginity as "vaginal sex" leaves soooo much out and unaccounted for.

How would you define a man who had been with some number of men (it could be 1 or it could be 1000s), but never a woman. Would you say that he's a virgin? How about a woman who has had sex with some number of women but never a man?

How about a rape victim? She (or he) was certainly not in the frame of mind to be having sex, and certainly not enjoying it.

I personally consider that I've lost my virginity several times.
- The first thing I remember about being alive I was being mollested in my crib, by a woman. In that sense, I suppose I was "never" a virgin so don't know what I'm talking about. :)
- I remember sometime later, not a lot, being mollested (raped - forced anal intercourse then several years later (don't ask me) vaginal intercourse.).
- My first consensual sexual encounters were with women. The first one was a *very* special lady, whom I'll never forget. She certainly took my virginity in a glorious manner.
- When I was 20, I had a consensual encounter with a man, whom I lived with for 5 years afterward. That was wonderful too. :)

So, when did I lose my virginity? First nonconsensual encounter with a woman? First (anal) nonconsensual encounter with a man? First (vaginal) nonconsensual encounter with a man? First consensual encounter with a woman? First consensual encounter with a man?

I hate virgins. :)) I destroy them whenever I find them. (So far, I've changed 4 people into "non virgins" :) )

Did I really though? I hear a virgin is someone who no longer has their skin. 2 of those 4 people were uncircumcised men. They've both still got their skin. Did I really take their virginity? :)) :) :))

Lorelei,

>What's your definition of a virgin?

IMO, if you have had anal or oral sex, you ain't no virgin. I may be wrong, but I define "virgin" as never had:

1. Vaginal sex
2. Anal sex
3. Oral sex

If your body has been penetrated by a dick in any holes on your body, I really don't believe you're a virgin.

But this is just my opinion, I could be wrong....<

:?

Does that include having your vagina touched by a tongue?

What about hand jobs? Tit fucking? What about various fetishes that can lead one to orgasm?

LizH, (Foot fetishist who can cum from having my feet licked or tickled the right way)
:confused:

Nope. None of those. Has to be a live cock penetration. Mind you, in my opinion.

Some people feel unless it's vaginal intercourse via cock penetration only, a person is still a virgin. If they feel that way, fine. But I personally don't think so.

I would say i'm still a virgin. I fooled around a bit with a the daughter of a lady my dad was dating for a few years when I was 10-12 and there was some penetration. But it was like ok what do we do now? It was just alright that's far enough in now pull it out. There was no in and out action. It was mostly just touching. I'm 31 and have made out a few other times in the last 20 years but that's about it. I'm too scared of the whole relationship thing I guess. I was abused as a youngster and I believe emotionally i'm still the age I was when it stopped. The thought of a woman laughing at the little fella is not a pleasant one either. If I ever did have a girlfriend she would have to get her pants tailored around my head because I would be munching box about 23 1/2 hours a day:)

Hi! Figure I might as well respond to this thread....

Yep, as a few people here know, I'm a virgin. I've only ever really had one girlfriend, and we lasted for six months before I called it off. Neither of us felt we were ready for our first time to have sex (but sex had nothing to do with the breakup). We fooled around a little bit, but not as far as having sex.

And I'm fine with that - that was how we felt at the time and nobody had their needs neglected.

Now, however, at 21 I'm 'ready' and willing to lose my virginity - not because I see it as some great burden, but simply because I am more familiar with my sexuality now and want to explore it.

And I'm sure I will get that chance one day - I just do my own thing and try not to worry about it too much. I think people put too much emphasis on virginity - it's not something to lose or to save. It's just the state of having not had sex. I've never sky-dived but don't get stressed about that.

And I'm certainly not going to jump off every plane just to say I've done it, if you follow the metaphor...

So - bottom line. If you're a virgin, great. If you're not, great. Be comfortable with who you are, not what you have or haven't done - that's pointless!!

Just my few words :)

CasperTG.

I'm a 22 year old virgin in that I've never had sexual intercourse. But I have had oral sex performed on me and I have performed it on her.

My hubby was a virgin when we met. He was 25 at the time. When I met him, I hadn't had sex for almost a year. By the time we had sex, I felt like a virgin again. It was an incredible honor for him to give up his virginity to me.

I agree with GermanSteve.I would hate to get married;and not
know if you're compatible!I also agree with SS;that people will see;the picture of yourself;that you paint!I learned that in racing;
cars&motorcycles.If you plan on getting beat;you probably are.
Why bother risking life&limb?Everyone has their own interpretation;but I believe what Lorelie said:I have known a few
women;that even if they have performed Fellatio(BJ);still consider
themselves a virgin.In my opinion;that is a more intimate act;then
vaginal intercourse.You're also still being penetrated! Irish
P.S.Getting off of my soapbox!Different strokes;for different folks!
P.P.S.By the way;with two daughters in their 30s;I HOPE that I'm
not a virgin!