Id say my SO and are about 50-50, however when i do come first she is ussually close and i can ussually keep it for 5 to 10 minutes

Men can cum once easily; ladies several times with a bit of practice and TLC. So it makes sense for the man to save it up for the Grand Finale. Unless, of course, he is going to cum twice.

Question : When do men want to cum twice?
Answer : Before they've cum once.

Poor men - so deprived of orgasms....

I usually try to help my wife to cum first because so often once it happens to me, it's hard for me to stay as focused as I would like to be. I'm afraid after it happens, it's far too easy for me to want to roll over and conk out.

Nothing will push me over the edge like my partner telling me he's about to cum, so that usually meant that my ex and i would cum together.

The only trouble is, i sometimes suffer from the same problem a lot of the boys say they have . . . sometimes after i've cum once, i just can't focus as well on giving him pleasure and after orgasm, my vagina seems to tighten up so if he's brought me off using his fingers or tongue, i really don't feel like being penetrated.

We found it worked best if he'd get me really close with fingers or tongue or both, then penetrate me and we'd usually cum together, because he couldn't usually last very long. That was probably my fault though because i just loved to watch and feel him cum inside me so rather than encouraging him to slow down and control himself, i just used to egg him on!

It did kind of make for rather short love making sessions though!

i think it's interesting reading the men's posts and comparing them to the womens. it relates to the "do men talk post". by what men tell me i'm lucky to be average. i claim total adequacy and i usually cum first at least the first couple of rounds

Does it matter ? as long as someone does.... I come sometimes and he does sometimes and we both do a lot... but it doesn't matter whose first or sometimes together... sometimes I am first, middle and last! ....lol:D

I always try to get her to cum first.. I like to finger her for awhile and get her to cum that way atleast once, after that she climbs on top of me and rides me till she cums, I try to get her to cum once or twice then we cum together... It's very Intense and Erotic for us!!
( you know you gotta love those climax control condoms)

when I first started having sex I did and we would just keep goibng, then she did a little while later

I used to be able to cum 3 or 4 times a night, now im lucky if i can do 2, I always do 1. She cums 3 or 4 or 5 times before i do now...

That's pretty much how it goes around here too ,although occasionally I'll get woken with a blowjob and not be expected to reciprocate. She usually gets her turn later in the day though, ;) :D

My SO tends to cum first....but always makes sure I follow :p

As I'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body she does.

I don't bother keeping track of time or the amount of orgasms my partners have as that takes concentration away from them. I beleive in giving your undivided attention to your partner and just tuning out the outside world no matter where you happen to be. (can also get you into trouble....) Anyways, mutual orgasm is also a wonder when it can be acheived but I have only a few experiences with this one as none of my "relationships" were actually the long term typed ones in the past few yrs. The only tip I can give here is to keep your body under control and to maximize your partners pleasure at any chance you get. Errogenous zones are relatively easy to find on any woman and thus you can assure her pleasure and of course your own. Excellent lovers are made not born, contrary to most peoples opinion.

when we have oral sex, she is afraid to cum first, don't ask me why. Most of the time she gets me to cum first. She has been close a few times.

I've found as the years roll on (Ahem!) my partner tends to cum first ...... not sure if it's age, experience, age...... LOL!

My current lady says cumming first is pretty new to her.. and she loves it! Must say, I do too!! :D

DM

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Ladies ALWAYS cum first
 

in my bed!!!

Like to start with a little back-and-forth foreplay, then I concentrate on her using my lips and tongue which always brings her to a brainshattering orgasm. Next, she goes down on me until I have an earth shattering orgasm into her mouth. Afterwards, we cuddle and touch for a spell, then I go back down on her until she reaches another intense orgasm, by which time I am almost always hard again...we can then go at it in a variety of positions for quite some time since I already came once!!!

Who's on first and I don't know is on 2nd base.

I like to spend some tongue time on my lady and letting her cum first.

Lately I cum first and last ;)

With the ex, it always depended on our mood....sometimes me first and sometimes him first.....i really liked when he came first because by the time he got me off, he was ready again....and that one always lasted a loooooonnnnnnngggggg time....*sighs at fond memories*

The last S/O I had it was a trade off.

I will usually cum two or three times during foreplay. Then when we do intercourse I like to wait for him to cum which will trigger mine. Its best for me when we can cum together.

I'd have to say she really enjoys the oral so much that, she's usually the first to cum.

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Always my pleasure to pleasure her first and ensure she has her orgasm first - that way both of us can relax for the next one.

When I am with someone I get her to cum first and then I get her off as may times as I can before I do. I guess you can say I am a giver when it somes to that. I love to completely wear her out, and have her in a state of pure bliss.

She will always be the First to Cumm .......... After several times (orgasmic bliss) then it's my turn.

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I cum first....or sometimes we do it together....

I always come first. My guy is absolutely the expert at holding back until I've come. Sometims he'll be fucking me, and I'll be really enjoying it-like I'll be laying on my back, I pull my legs way up toward my chest with my hands, and I'll start to moan because it feels so good-that'll kind of set him off, especially if he's been holding back for a while-all of a sudden he'll pull out of me, and I'll say,"no, baby, not yet" and he'll say "no, just letting some out" and he'll kind of go uhh and this large amount of semen pours from his dick-it doesn't shoot, like it does when he has a complete come, and he doesn't scream either like he always does if he's losing it-then he recovers a few seconds and stuffs it back in me and he can last for much longer after that. Later on, if I'm still not worn out from coming, he may still pull out and let a little more out and keep on going, but it's all about whether I'm satisfied first. I'm glad I've got somebody that cares that much about me. I see girls that have husbands/boyfriends that kill themselves making them happy, and they couldn't give a shit. Those women deserve to have some guy that jumps on and squirts, and then rolls over and goes to sleep. Then they might appreciate the ones they've got a little more.

I make sure to please my woman firet before letting go.

Am I the only woman out there who sometimes wishes I got to cum last?

An orgasm really really takes it out of me, and just sometimes, I'd like for him to cum, then keep pleasuring me with fingers/tongue/cock (he doesn't go limp for quite some time afterwards) so that I could have the last orgasm of the night.....just so I can be selfish and stop when I'm satisfied, and not have to fight all those natural instincts to collapse on the bed exhausted and go to sleep.

Men often seem to pride themselves on holding back until a woman has cum, but surely a truly gallant act would be to carry on after he was satisfied......am I the only woman who feels that way?

I like that too Lou. Happens here.

We usually have what I call vessel sex. He cums, he's done. End of story.

No wonder I now have more toys than will fit in my toy box.

She cums first most all the time. We both like it that way because once I've done most of the "work" I collapse and am useless to her for several minutes. By then, she's "lost it" never to be found again during that session. I don't want to say she's a lazy lover but then again, she's not the most active either. So it works for us