Rock on, ladies....rock on!!!

well sharni what can i say not much cos u would give me a punch in the head y worry what other people say or think but i say u r not to big there is only more to play with love scab

sorry was sounding like i was on rikie lake u r still very sexy to me

Amen to this thread. I've battled the pounds all my life, and it ain't been easy. What chaps me is the "You are worthless" look I get from the waifish skeletons with skin. I guess when they get that skinny, the weight goes to their overweight egos.

Anyway, thanks for the rant, Sharni. It made my day.

Sharni,

It's amazing what people think they can get away with saying to others, isn't it? :(

I am also a BBW - to the best of my recollection I haven't had any of your experiences or some of those recounted (keeps her fingers crossed). My regular doc is gentle about my weight, but the radiation oncologist I had to visit made a big deal about it (thank God I don't have to see him again!).

I've been heavier than I should be since high school. Though if I weighed now what I did then Iwould be thrilled!

Keep going and remember don't let the SOBs grind you down!!

its nothng my boss had the hid to tell me that i need to loose weight cause bosses arnt hiring big ppl much our days cause of back problems and yadda yadda yaddy and turned around and said he thinks im slow at my work cause of my weight nearly told him to stick is low paying jobup his arse when i first started he said to me im not the brightest person here but i was not hired to be well fuck him i been there nearly ten years but up with alot of shit but i can do most the formans work and i have to shoe the new guys the rope but im still the shit kicker on low wages the only reason im still there cause i cant afford to leave but cant afford to stay......so bosses are the bgges arse whole's

my POV? Everyone should be allowed to be the person they are, who I am I to judge or make comments about a person's size, height weight etc...?

Live and let live, is my motto.

I don't know where people get off making non-complimentary comments about other people's appearance, whatever it may be. It's never, ever okay, and the people who do it are not worth your sadness. Then they win, and I'm too stubborn to let assholes win if I can help it.

In any case, it is self-hate that makes these people hate the zaftig among us. Don't think for a minute that they don't lash out at others as well. When we don't love ourselves, we must make everyone else one-down to be up. If I'm critical of you, I don't have to do the real work of addressing my own inadequacies, and isn't that just so convenient for me?

Victoria Moran, in her bio, was talking about how she'd gotten her start writing. At one of her jobs she interviewed an actress who had the reputation for being stunning. "She said to me: 'I’m not really beautiful, but I realized when I was very young that my life would be better if I were. So I decided I would be and everyone has believed it ever since.'"

There's a lot of truth, and a lot of magic in that decision. I try to make it every day. Some days, I'm more successful than others, but it's worth the effort regardless.

I love you, my sisters in size, and I love you, the men who struggle, too, and the men who love us.

Real women have curves. I never want to be anything but real.

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