Everyone here is talking about boundries or ground rules and I think that is an important part, in fact probably a must for anyone you are talking to more than once or twice in private...

...Even then i say be careful lines, thoughts, desires all get blurry when it comes to matters of the loins or heart.

There is a line int All the President's Men:

"When you've got them by the short ones, their hearts and minds will follow."

CK

Damn i love it when you do movie quotes CK