jennaflower, this is a fantastic thread, thanks for starting it.

I am new here at the site and before I read this thread yesterday I had already added it into my favorites. I hadn't really thought about telling my S/O but if he had come across it and questioned me about it, I certainly would have brought him here and shared it with him.

However after reading your post, I decided why not just tell him then if he decides to enjoy it with me it would be that much better. So I did bring him here after he got home. He didn't say much about it so I don't know how much he'll be coming around but I know he respects me and my interests and therefore I know that he doesn't mind me enjoying myself while I'm here.

I will admit however that there was a time in our relationship when I wouldn't have even considered coming to a site like this and if I found out that he had, I would have been very hurt. You might say I used to be a bit of a sexual prude, something that definitely can't be said of me today. *LOL* I guess the reason I tell you this is that I can understand why many people would not inform their S/O about a site like this as it could damage the relationship. And to those people, I wish for them a sexual awakening similar to what I experienced as it has definitely improved my life :p

Hip Hip Horey!! For Sassy Rose..

I completely understand what you mean. I have gone thru a sexual awakening... a journey of sorts.. prior to that.. during my marriage.. I would never have understood this place.. :)

LOL Thanks jennaflower!

What a sweet journey it is too ;)

My wife doesn't share this site with me I wish she did but I don't know how to tell her. She may take things the Wrong way and get jelous over the post I have entered. If she did share the site she could help with my spelling

I am normally not talking about this site because I was used to posting very private details about myself. Only a friend of mine that has already posted a bit around here, and my therapist have heard about it. I am enjoying very much the anonymity with at the same time the possibility of introducing myself to the other members for more contact.

i haven't told her but i wouldn't hide it from her either.If she asked what things i do on here id tell her.

My husband used to hide this, and other sites that he visited, from me. I don't know what sparked it, but one day he was sitting at the puter as I came down in the morning and this time he didn't hide it! He showed me all the sites he visited and then he told me to post something if I wanted to. I chose Pixies to post as it seemed the most friendly.

I don't know what he thought I would do back in the day when he used to hide this from me. I have always been open to new ideas and I am not a sexual prude by any means. I guess he just didn't want to share this part of him at the time. I am so happy he showed me this site. I feel at home here and have made many friends and I love to post and view pics. It's a sort of therapy for me. Very relaxing!!!

Great idea for a thread jenna!!! Ty for thinking it up!

Mrs. Lix

Re: Do you tell?
 

Thanks for starting this thread, Jenna! BTW, Murphy and I REALLY enjoyed meeting you, it was a blast!!

My answer is a bit convoluted.....I share SOME of what I find at Pixies with my husband, but NOT the sexual aspect of Pixie's with him. I assume that one day I will, but now that he knows that Murphy and I both frequent Pixies it will be a bit more difficult. I suppose my initial reluctance to share the sexual aspect with him is because of the reaction I expect that I'd get. I don't think he'd be angry, more like because of his "old fashioned" attitude I don't think he'd understand my involvement. And he's also a very private person and he wouldn't appreciate my sharing some of our "private" business with "strangers." Plus I just don't want to argue with him.

My wife was always pretty open about sex, a couple of examples would be...We made love in the back yard of a church in broad daylight, and she gave me a subscription to Hustler for Christmas one year. However the last several years she has expressed that she has an absolute zero interst in sex. To top it off some woman that I had never met, except for in a general chat room, and to whom I had entrusted my general location, and real name too (bad move for a computer newbee) found my phone number in an internet seach, and called my house New years eve while we were out. She was drunk off her ass and said that she loved me. You might guess that was not one of my best nights. I think that she hopes that my desire for sex will completely diminish as her's has. Therefore I don't even dare bring up anything of a sexual nature.

I've told my wife about Pixies and how much fun it is, but she just isn't into computers and even has me send and receive emails with our kids. Even tried to get her just to sit along side when I'm on but with very little luck. Maybe one day??

I told my husband about Pixies back when I was just reading the stories.. he thought it was a great place and encouraged me to send in some of my work. Then when I found the message boards side of Pixies (I was so excited lol) I told him about it right away. He used to surf at Pixies a bit sometimes look at the pics with me and even joined under his own name eventually. He doesn't come to Pixies much because hes gone a lot but supports my being here. We have very different sexual drives (mine is stuck on OD while his is still in low somewhere lol) but I would never dream of hiding my involvement in a site such as Pixies or my cybering for that matter from him. He knows I am not about to go running out for a fling with someone I met online but its a great way to relieve some"tensions" for me.

I really do envy those of you who are able to be so open with your S/O about Pixies and other sites like it. I believe a lot of my reluctance has to do with "age" and "upbringing". By that I mean I was raised 10-20 years earlier, or more than most of the other ladies here, and at that time (late 50s/early 60s) sex was not as openly discussed as it is today. Especially it was not talked about in front of or with "boys" if you were a "nice, Catholic girl". That doesn't mean that I have ever believed it was "bad" or "dirty", only that we were never taught or allowed to express or discuss sexual likes/dislikes or anything else regarding sex, in mixed company.
It was not discussed at home or school other than warnings to "keep your legs crossed" and you'd better not get "in trouble."

lol If I were with someone else it may be a problem.. my hubby was actually raised in a much stricter moral environment than I was. He is also older than I am so that tends to make him a bit more closeminded about things.. however I was always very open about sex (my family is weird) and being sexual so he knew going into the relationship that I was that way. I flirt a lot with people too in general and he has always been able to accept that. I have had relationships though where the other person had a problem with my openness and frankness where sex and sexuality was concerned so I think its mainly a matter of who I am with... So its totally understandable that some people are unable to share and sad but there are many people who I would not tell about this site cuz they would never understand .. hell one of my best friends to this day has no clue that I am bisexual sad but true (I have no clue how she could not see it LMAO) but she would never be able to accept my sexuality or a site like this.

I am going to answer simply because for some reason my mind feels dull right now. If I had a S/O I would definitely share or at least try to share it with her and if she got angry or upset then I suppose she isnt the person I thought she was.

Tell and Answer.
 

I had to consider this since the thread was started. It broke down to the groups of people that touch my life. S/O, family, friends, and acquaintances. I’m too old (and I hope too smart) to have causes any more, so there’s no need to carry a banner about my personal life.:cool: So it’s a question of who I share Pixieville with.;)
Acquaintances (and even near friends), being the largest group, (sometimes TOO large), are the people I feel no need to share my bank balance or any other personal information with. I have no problem acknowledging this it’s not a bad thing that places like it exist.:D
Friends are people I count on my fingers and toes. I have mentioned that I visit such a place and enjoy the hell out of it. I would be comfortable with any of them coming here and knowing who I am. That’s why they’re my friends.
Our close family is pleased that each of us have a happy sex life and respect each others privacy.:)
An intimate lover is the only person that needs to know and share my citizenship here:p. As jennaflower said in the beginning, “because I think sharing this with them would give them a more complete understanding of who I am...:p:eek::p” is also very true for me. If we’re not sharing our complete selves, we’re with the wrong people.:rolleyes:

Just a thought.