^^^^ It's good to see you here again MM. Hopefully things will change for you and the frustration will come to an end.

MM- empty your box.. you are out of space!

oh if you say so.

Have you tried fetlife.com. There are events and meetings and individuals that like different stuff. It’s a place for like minded people to meet. Try it out. I’m on there.

still frustrated though :devil:

I remember reading somewhere that guys reach their sexual peak in thier late teens to mid 20's. And women tend to peak out in their later 50's to mid 60's. i think i have the ages right. Read this years ago but even if i'm off on the ages i think we can clearly see its not equal and it isn't fair to ether sex.

i know what you mean when you say your clit gets overly sensitive and you just have to stop. It gets so it almost hurts instead of just climaxing. When you plan to 'have a date' with your toys, don't put alot of pressure on yourself to cum. Just go to bed and slowly and gently explore your body. Don't plan on cumming. Get worked up but STOP when it even feels close to cumming. Put your hand over your pussy and just hold it until it calms down. Then sometimes it will be ready to cum. If it stays to sensitive, just say 'dates over'. and go about your day.

Also, are your toys water proof? It might be helpful to play in the tub. Go slow, don't aim for the climax to be the goal, just make yourself relax and feel good.

Just remembered something about over use of toys. You can use them to much and become overly sensitive. So they say take a break from them and just use your fingers, The fast vibes and the length of time and force they are used basically is saying go easy, gentle and slow.

Good luck. Have fun.

I replyed to this and then read the post you started more recently. I think i would have said it differently then i did. But who knows.

women peak (the sexual hormones are at their highest concentrations) in late 30s to early 40s. sexual frustration or its kissing cousin sexual arousal comes and goes for me but has a baseline, low-simmer setting :D

finding a serious relationship, tho, is seemingly elusive - especially with guys (a bit easier with another girl). hookup culture with lil to no commitment is well-entrenched. three years ago, i mentioned the "m" word to the bf of two years - i prefaced the mention by saying it was nothing serious and was only curious (truly); less than a week later, i was dumped by him for being too controlling (he was 30 and i was 27 yo).

i'd say whateves (i was DEF not controlling), buuut - those sayings about a biological clock...? I FEEL them (then again, i've always wanted a family). and as each year slips away, the pull is that much more intense... until i find - that person, tho, the magic wand is my bestest buddy :rolleyes2

Well, I turned 72 yesterday, equipment still works but it’s mostly solo these days.