Any chance of some pics?????????? ;) C'mon, you know I love chastity belts!!


This thread wasn't really about condoms, gender responsibility, or even bunnies. Although bunnies are cool. I think a lot of women are, to their credit, extremely careful about safe sex - as well they should be. I think both Loulabelle and jbh3 would both actually agree that both partners have an equal responsibility to safe sex. I also don't think that Loulabelle's comments were excusing women of laying down and being vulnerable bunnies. To tell the truth I think jbh3 may have a point that may deserve further comment - in a thread of its own.

The question being considered is why is it considered - amongst some men - better or more desirably to take a virgin's cherry. What's so special about 'em?

CasperTG.

Let me see?!
 

alright so if the boys out there are telling a girl that I might know that she's overdue to give up her cherry , that's normal and even considered alright.
and a virgin is highly desired because it might be neat to be the boy who removes whats pure in her and even give a couple tears running down her face ( something said before about it being a guilty pleasure ) and I've gathered an interest in being able to control her.
and a virgin i special cuase of her purity and tightness ( whatever you mean by that ) which makes me wonder what a girl is after she no longer has this cherry ( whatever that is ).
and as I've heard if we dress nice in our teen years and look real good and don't go out much, we are a tease to boys and it I guess tortures them as they say, and makes them refer to us in terms I don't like.
so I guess my mom is right it is a man's world. so I wonder should this girl resist men like some women do and treat them as badly as they're treated, or give in to men? since they don't seem to stop asking and whining and begging...etc. you tell me thanx Angie! :)

also!
 

you can talk to me tonight on Gmail if you so choose, my computer has been weird so it's going into the shop and I plan to talk as much as i can to anyone who will listen and give me GOOD advice. thanx, Angie! :)

How old are you?

My feeling is that most men feel it is a conquest, a rite of passage and also gives them bragging rights to bed a virgin. I myself never had the occassion to be so lucky, but then again I was a virgin until I was 19.

"just wanted different answers"

Perhaps you should have asked a different question.

Virginity as a sought after commodity goes back to the dawn of time, where the boss ape got the jollies.

In the dark and middle ages, the feudal Lord had the task of deflowering the local virgins, known as

"droit de seigneur", the right of the Lord.

It's a power/dominance/ego/peer bit of bullshit used by people to put a bit of assumed importance into their lives.

Personally, I feel that if a woman hasn't a clue about what she's doing, the chances of either of

us enjoying ourselves is slight.

funniest reply EVER! :)

Angie no-one said it's ok to put pressure on another person to have sex. It's not.

You asked why some men like virgins and we told you a couple of theories.

You should have sex when you want to with someone you want to and when you feel ready for it. Dressing nice and not going out much does not make you a tease and boys only say that as a way of getting you to sleep with them.

Sex is NOT and should NEVER be about 'giving in to' someone. It's an expression of love and should be a pleasurable experience for both parties. Doing it because you're giving in to men, is not the right reason to have sex...whether you're a virgin or you've slept with half the town. Do it because you want to share that closeness with a specific person and for no other reason.

It's not a man's world, and saying 'no' to a man is not treating him badly. It's treating yourself with the respect that you deserve.

Top marks for you, Loulabelle!!!


She has brains, has Lou. Smart chicks rock!
CasperTG

still wondering
 

look just be straight with me about everything and don't ask my age because it's not only me trying to understand all this stuff, I have to friends that get this pressure too, and I get that it's normal for guys to try so I'm just looking for some answers without the writing around the bush so to speak or sugar-coating it. Just give it to us straight please. ;)

Angie and friends
 

Guys make out like it's the biggest thing to have sex with a virgin. I mean what is the difference in sex with a virgin than a girl who isn't. really it's got be the same right?! and if it's so great for us why do you hear all these horror stories from girls and even some boys about it?! I mean these guys tease and bug you till your head is ready to expode! :eek: and the idea of hearing in the hallways that a guy is describing what you look like naked and what he did to you is enough to make you wanna die!! :confused: so anyway what's it all mean and what should girls do when their fed up?!! I mean sometimes I feel like if I do it'll shut'em up, but then there's the fears I have and my freinds too. especially one of my freinds, she has a real bad time with little pains let alone a major one. sometimes her periods put her in tears. so stop twisting words around and just let us know the things I feel we have every right to know. thanx, Angie & company!! :)

How many guys have personally told you that having a virgin is a big thing for them? I've known a couple that have mentioned they like the idea of being with a virgin, but most guys I have known don't have a preference. If anything their preference is for a woman that isn't a virgin.

You mentioned teasing in hallways and that sounds to me like you're in high school. The biggest thing you're up against is immaturity. I know it's easier said then done, but ignore them.

No one should have sex for the sake of 'giving in'... that leads to problems. Not only immediate problems, but relationship problems down the road, so to speak.

To bring this back to your original question, a lot of theories have been presented here and I think they all have some validity as to why some guys might prefer virgins. But there is not a single answer that explains it all.

whatever!
 

for 1 alot of guys have said they want a virgin, and a few said they love it with a virgin. i don't care if you think we are immature. we will find out what we need to know thank you.

I was speaking of the immaturity of the guys you are speaking of in the hall way.

Define 'a lot'. How many have personally told you that they want a virgin?

You sound like you're rather young, teenager I mean. So of course guys your age are going to say they want a virgin because they think that's what they're supposed to want.

Just a suggestion, don't get so pissy about the answers you get. If you ask a question on a public message board you're going to get a wide range of answers. Some you're going to like and some you're not going to like. It's just the way it is.