Pixies Place Forums - Reflections on size

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Originally Posted by Vigil

Men grow up with an idea of our relative size in the same way that women do with regards to their breasts – well we can see them and other peoples, and there are probably as many old wives tales for both. I think that there is enormous ignorance with regard to vaginas amongst most men (myself included) and many women.

The only thing I know about my own size relative to that of others is what I know from statistics, Pixies, porn, and girlie gossip.

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Originally Posted by Vigil

This combined with a pre-sexual liberation hangover that men are “in charge of sex” makes the size issue a one way street. I love sexually liberated people. You see the honest answers here – but you will also see women who will state a preference (for whatever reason even if its just in their heads) for larger cocks. Clearly so far the Pixie Ladies who may have this preference, have kept it to themselves on this thread. And why shouldn’t people be honest about what they prefer, there are so many other physical traits that we talk about. It doesn’t mean that they are a life and death issue or that we aren’t perfectly happy to compromise or change our preferences for the right person.

They should be honest, yes. But when people make say things that are not only personal preferences but statements about how others are not being truthful (which they support by virtue of having "inside knowledge" - eg: "She may have told you this, but in private she told me this" or "Women all lie to save/hurt mens' egos"), it can cast doubt.

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Originally Posted by Vigil

For me its just one of those things and for the vast majority of people it isn’t a big deal.

Well, for me it's not just one of those things. In the real world, a person can see my physique, facial structure, eyes, hair, etc. and decide that I am not suitable before I have even so much as said a word to them, let alone invested in them emotionally. There is not nearly the same feeling of vulnerability. Someone who I am about to get naked for, for sex, will have already known and accepted those parts of my body that they have been able to see before we got to this point. If they are not satisfied with my genitalia it would create an awkward situation whereby they are emotionally attached but physically craving someone else, and possibly lead to rejection for something I an scarcely able to change or "work out", by a person who I have invested in emotionally. And then, possibly public derision. I don't want to have potential partners poisoned with the notion that I am not big enough.

Maybe I'm being paranoid. I don't know. But I certainly don't believe it's just one of those things.