LixyChick, so sorry to have got up your nose! The reason I say DON'T have a serious discussion is that confronting issues head=on is not necessarily the best way to get where you want to go.

Right now you have ( I assume) two embarrassed people. She because she caught masturbating and he because realises that she wouldn't be don't it if she'd be properly loved. So why make things even more tense with a Serious Discussion about Impotant Issues. You're right that sometimes it might be necessary to confront with the fact that he screwed up about something, but perhaps not this time.

Are you a mother? If you are I just know you are devious enough to get the kids to do what you want without realising the idea came from you. Treat him the same way, educate him by showing and encouraging - bribing even. (I always respond better to bribery.) Instead of telling him how to rub your clit, how much better to put his finger tip in the right place and move it just so, all the while letting him know what it does to you.

I know we're both headed in the same direction but I like to be gentler about getting there. (You can come and beat me up any time you like, you big sexy Dom.)

Do you still have 'Judgin Amy' on the television? A thought to leave you with - "When a lady is left wide awake, a gentleman has not done his duty." --Judging Amy

I'm surprised he wasn't so turned on that he was ready for another go. But girl, if he ain't satisfying you, take care of your own.