thats the same as my gf blue.. nothing disrespectful. i want her to talk more but she is quite quiet.

although we made a film recently and she was a little more vocal.. wen i was cumming she said "cum in my mouth baby.. and on my face.. mmm"

hot..

Blueswede - you've got me thinking about the whole 'Bitch' thing again. I never thought I would tolerate it, but sometimes when a certain person is really losing it and I've got my nails digging in his back, he'll just come out with it and because Iknow he doesn't really think I am one, and that it's just that he's losing control as he goes over the edge, it bebcomes a real turn on.

I wouldn't want him saying it just for mybenefit, but when he says it because there are just so many obscene thoughts chasing through his head, and I'm goading him and urging him on, it's fantastic. :p

I wonder who that 'bitch' is talking about ?? :D:D

Oh and BTW anyone would call you a 'cruel bitch' if you were doing to their squishy bits what you were doing to mine with your tongue, lips, hands, TEETH.........excuse me I have to go take care of a memory :D

Loulabelle, I have a particular reason for not being able to tolerate being called bitch, slut, or whore or having things said to me in a tone of humiliating me or being angry with me. I was raped. For the most part I've overcome its impact on me except when it comes to the stuff I first mentioned here. The incident involved a lot of name calling, anger, and humiliation, and experiencing anything close to that just opens up the wound all over again. Ironically, I am a "bottom," and I thrive on that in the bedroom, but it just can't involve the name calling and humiliation in particular. I DO tell my fiance that when I'm upset or he's upset I'd like him to escort me to the bedroom and fuck the hell out of me, but I mean that more in the sense of like when your kid is having a tantrum and you "calmly" hold them or restrain them until THEY calm down.

blue swede

i can understand how you feel about being called a whore due to your experiences

but my ex has only been raped by her boyfriends and i have only raped or been raped by my girlfriends, the love we share makes it erotic.

well she liked the feeeling of being humilated and she loved to have her hair pulled while being fucked from behind.


wee, i guess she loved living out her fantasies.

role play between a couple is allways fun.

i never thought i would be into role play nad talking dirty but she sold me without even asking. experiencing it once you cant turn back.

casper

i dont understand what you mean by who the hell am i ?

explain?

naughtyeddie - I'm not sure what you're talking about would actually class as 'rape'. Rape is forcing someone to have sex when they are unwilling. If both parties are enjoying it and are consensual (even if they are pretending not to be) then I don't think you can classify it as rape.

Of course it's entirely possible to rape an SO, but I'm assuming that you have not been forcing yourself upon an unwillling partner!

Blueswede - I can totally understand your reasons; I have no doubt I'd feel exactly the same if I were in your position......words are a far more powerful force than a lot of people think and the psychological damage they can cause is far more lasting than any physical pain can ever be. But good for you for having got so far in getting over the experience. It's good to see that you're not letting the bastard ruin your life. :) x

loulabelle

you are correct, it was more unscheduled roleplay than actually rape. i actually did not want to have sex when we were argueing but because i love her and she was skillful too, i could not help but get turned on and go along.

sorry for misrepresenting what went on. but it was highly erotic , what a trn on

Naughtyeddie, I knew what you meant when you were referring to "rape." However, I agree with Loulabelle that even if at first you don't feel like making love, if you change your mind and do get turned on by what is happening, so to speak, it may be roleplaying rape but isn't really rape. Believe me, when you're really raped, you in no way, shape, or form want the act to take place.

Thanks, Loulabelle, for the kind remarks. Strangely enough, about the only time I ever have nightmares about what happened anymore is when I am in stressful situations in which I feel I have no control over what is happening, situations that have nothing to do with sex but may be things involving finances or my job or my kids. The exceptions are what I mentioned earlier--the name calling, etc.

sorry for being insensitive and daft
 

bluesweede

on reflecting my last post i realise that i was totally insensitive and rather thick i nthe skull.

what i have experienced cant be refered to by the same name as what you experienced.

role play is merely that it is still far from the real thing.

i never intended to trivialise what you experienced , i must have gotten too caughtup in memories or my erotic games.

sorry, please accept my apppologies

eddie

Oh, Heavens, eddie, no apologies are necessary! :) I understood what you were talking about when you first used the term. I am glad that you posted what you posted in the first place; it gave me more ideas. ;) It's very sweet of you, though, to offer your apology, and it touches my heart. :)

thanks blue swede, i was just feeling bad about being insensitive.

but i do love talking dirty and being talked dirty to. it rally turns me on. the only exception was with my last ex when she told me fuck me harder , is that all you got. well i lost my erection , i guess that type of motivation dosent work for me,

i respond to praise rather than being challenged.

talking dirty is erotic particularly when it is with the one you love

I totally agree with you, eddie, that it's particularly stimulating with someone you love. Also, I can't imagine responding positively to someone "challenging" their lover in that way either. If someone said to me, "Is that as tight as you can get?" I'd probably want to pop 'em one besides losing my desire! ;)

This thread has gone to places I didn't think it would go but I'm glad it opened up some good conversation.

And if I call a girl bitch or slut in bed I usually make sure I know where I stand with her. If you say the wrong thing, well, sex comes to a halt pretty quickly.

White Noise makes a good point. It's just like comedy--it helps a lot to know your audience.

For instance, I would NOT recommend asking this, unless you're as certain about your partner as I was about the lady in question at the time. (I later learned that I was wrong to feel so certain, but that's another story. One of many....)

"So, what was your name again?"

This, of course, fell into the categories of things to say during (or, in this case, after) sex and comedy. You really should have a good idea of where you stand. Also, it helps to be an experienced smart-ass like myself--kids, don't try this at home.

Smart arses like me and Flynn have to be careful - when we get someone in bed we don't want them leaving too quickly. *LOL*