Tongue Lashing...

[Smile Beautiful]

At the beginning of our relationship my bf was eager to eat me out even though he had no experience in that department (or any other sexual department now that I think about it). We agreed not to keep track of who went down on who and no one would owe the other. (Although as of now I have been much more generous!!)

Well he doesn't go down on me anymore!! And I can't get him to, no matter how nice I ask!!!

What should I do to raise his enthusiasm again??

:)

Sarah

[RandyGal]

Ya got me...after 25 years hubby has only tried once, and it wasn't a very enthusiastic effort either.


Good luck honey, it sucks when you DO know what you're missing.

I hope someone here will offer some words of wisdom that will help you encourage your bf to once again, go down south. :)

[Ironwood]

It may just be that he doesn't feel you're responding enough at the time, even though you tell him you want him to other times. I know it's no fun for me doing something if I don't get some positive feedback.

[Lilith]

Dump him! He does not care about what you want.........that does not get better over time.

[Smile Beautiful]

*Sob*

I feel so abused and unloved...he never was good, though I honestly tried my best to help him. But I didn't really know what felt good cause no one else that had gone down on me before did a very thorough job.

:)

Sarah

[jonjon]

I sure can't help since though I love to do it, she won't let me or do me. Maybe she doesn't like how I do her, but others either said nothing to not hurt my fellings or gave me hints on improving.

I am about to get out and find a woman who does like it.

[Smile Beautiful]

NOOOOOOOO...I'm not dumping him and really that isn't true. I know he does...I just don't why he doesn't like to eat me out.

:)

Sarah

[Smile Beautiful]

I'm sure I'd like it jonjon!!!!!!!

:)

Sarah

[Casperr]

Sarah,
ASK HIM!!! Seriously, if he's not doing something anymore there's probably a reason, and none of us are going to know that, only him! So when you next feel ok bringing it up, just ask, "You used to luv going down on me, but now it's like you don't. What's wrong? Maybe we can fix it?"
That just sounds the most logical thing to do in my opinion. There could be any number of reasons - maybe it's just lost the novelty appeal and now it's boring or something. Like I said, I dunno, and nobody else but him probably knows.

Good luck, and let us know what he says!
CasperTG

[Smile Beautiful]

I did ask him LOL and this is exactly what he said:

"its just that i dont know if i am doing it right or not and i dont wanna do it cause i'm worried that i wont do it right."

So now I need help w/ that!! I don't know how to go down on a girl!!! and just between us Pixie ppls...(shh) I don't even masturbate (it's kind of a shame-shame catholic girl thing) So he doesn't know how to please me...I don't know how to please me! Someone help me!!

:)

Sarah

[RandyGal]

jonjon said:

"I am about to get out and find a woman who does like it."
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*raising my hand as high as I possibly can, waving it around like a madwoman, adding a yell "HEY! OVER HERE" every once in a while* LOL LOL


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OK Smile Beautiful...it sounds like you need some simple old fashioned sex education. Search the internet and find some cross cut pictures of a womans body and a mans.
Find all the necessary bits and pieces...and don't get into listening to old wives tales about sex and stuff.

Find out what makes your toes curl....take a finger and FIND your clit. Rub it. Does that feel good? Does it feel odd? Sometimes at first it does feel strange and maybe even uncomfortable.

Often, until a woman knows how an orgasm is supposed to feel..for REAL, she doesn't realize she's having one or it feels almost painful to her.

Play with your body. Learn from all those feelings...good and bad. And encourage your boyfriend to do the same.

After you've both played by yourselves, figure out a way to incorporate the play WITH each other...........

*whew*

Sounds confusing.. sorry.......
just don't give up on yourself. It's important to know how YOU feel...how YOUR body responds to different kinds of stimulation and where.........

Good luck and have FUN!

[Smile Beautiful]

TY.......WILL DO!!!!!!

:)

Sarah

[Ironwood]

Originally posted by Smile Beautiful
I did ask him LOL and this is exactly what he said:

"its just that i dont know if i am doing it right or not and i dont wanna do it cause i'm worried that i wont do it right."


That's what I suggested, that he can't tell if he's pleasing you or not. Why do I bother trying to help people?

[Smile Beautiful]

Oops I'm sorry Ironwood...You're a male so that makes you automatically CORRECT and ALL KNOWING!!!!!!!!!!!

:)

Sarah

[tazzfromca]

I think maybe watching videos might help, watch together or seperate

Just My 2 cents worth

[Ironwood]

Originally posted by Smile Beautiful
Oops I'm sorry Ironwood...You're a male so that makes you automatically CORRECT and ALL KNOWING!!!!!!!!!!!


I just like people to admit the possibility.

[RandyGal]

But Ironwood, so often it isn't just one problem but several.

You were right on the money with one of their problems of course but she also said that she really didn't know her body very well....


so there already you have two things going on. :)


I'm amazed at the all the great and different suggestions given here...this is so cool.

[PantyFanatic]

*Sob* I feel so abused and unloved...no one else that had gone down on me before did a very thorough job.....So now I need help w/ that!! I don't know how to go down on a girl!!!.....I don't know how to please me! Someone help me!! You get on I-71 at that end and get off at this end! :p :p

LOL- That's one of the beautiful things about Pixies. You get to dream HAPPY with real people.:D

Hun- You AND he don't have to read around here very much to see that there are a lot of us that LIVE to suck our ladies out. I know you can find everything from method to hygiene in these threads. The most important thing in any intimate experience is to just let it go and enjoy. Enjoy yourself, your partner, your partners enjoyment of you. Sex, in all its forms, is the only true perpetual motion that just keeps getting by giving and giving by getting. And it sounds like the both of you have the beautiful opportunity to start at the beginning and explore it all together. Just give yourselves to each other completely and take each other completely.

[divot109]

Sarah:

To quote Nike, "Just do it!" or tell him to do it. You say he doesn't do it to you because he "doesn't know how so he's afraid to." None of us knew how until we LEARNED how to...Of course, I couldn't imagine not wanting to go down on a woman as beautiful as you are. I also agree with a couple of previous comments. MASTURBATE: there is a very good chance that few guys will ever be able to please you if you can't please yourself...If you don't know what makes you feel best during sex. I am not suggesting that you dump you bf, unless you do so for me of course (J/K)...but, the simple fact that you posted this threads leads me to believe that you are somewhat frustrated with this. No matter how great he may be to you in all other areas, this dilemma will lead to irreconcilable difficulties in your relatinship (and possibly future relationships) if it is not resolved. There is absolutely nothing fun or enjoyable about sex if one or both of you are left unsatisfied and sexually frustrated. I bet that you make him cum...does HE take the time to make sure that you do? Ask yourself and him that!!!

[jonjon]

Smile Beautiful,

I agree with the talking but the answer he gave makes it tough. If he is open there are some great sites with how to do it. Oral sex that is, written from a woman's point of view.

Also maybe a bit more blow jobs by you and turning into him towards a 69.

Hey and remember you can always guide him along. Give him step by step hints as you entice him with provactive teasing. Try cherry syrup and honey and make it playful to get him back into it,

My best regards and wishes that you work this out. I wouldn't want you to get into a situation like I am in.

xoxox
;)

[jonjon]

http://www.cumown.com/love/sex/howtoeat.htm

This is a url to read about eating pussy. Send your bf there and maybe he will get on track.

I agree with the need to masturbate and recommend you read http://www.proaxis.com/~solo/hme.htm or less specifically go to http://www.intercourse.org.uk/links.html

[ericthered]

Dear Smile Beautiful,

I don't know if you have ever tried pleasuring a lady with your tongue but believe me, there can be a feedback problem. It can be very, very hard to judge what is happening as you lick and suck your favourite pussy.

Apart from the embarrassment many ladies feel about directing their man to lick here harder, go easier there, ooh-that's good, there is also the problem of being driven out of their mind. In my limited experience, your lady is likely to collapse into total incoherence and be literally unable to communicate. Many's the time I've been working away without even a moan as a reward only to find afterwards that she's been out of her mind in ecstacy.

If your man had any idea how much you were enjoying it, I'm sure he would never stop. Talking about it afterwards is difficult and not precise. So how to get the message through as the great event is happening?

One suggestion is to get on top. Rest your elbows on the bedhead and lower your pussy onto his tongue. Tell him to keep his head still, and you do the moving. You'll soon both figure out what works best and your increasingly frantic movements will give him a real buzz. He'll also be 100% sure of when you came!

Another gentler way is to 69 - but not simultaneously. I'm told it is near impossible for a girl to have a good orgasm while trying to do the same for some-one else, so take turns. Bring him close to cumming, and then stop while he does the same for you. You'll have to stop him before you slip over the edge, but just having got you close will be a prize for him (you can always play-act a bit to encourage him). After a few turns, let yourself come. Don't bother trying to make him come at the same time, he'll still enjoy the experience. Just bury your face in his crotch and enjoy yourself. When you come round again, you may find he's come in your hair. If not, sit on his cock or blow him until he gets his jollies too.

You'll never hear him say he didn't know if he was doing it right again!

[south]

Lose him in a big hurry. Like a bad habit.
He has to be either selfish or stupid and it is just a matter of time before these traits of his become apparent in other areas of the relationship.
You are too hot to waste your time on this loser.

[ericthered]

Well, Simle Beautiful, are you winning? Or do I have to come over there and sort you out myself? Let us know what happening.....

[BIBI]

ok.... my two cents worth

It isn't going to get any better..........DUMP HIM!!!!!
He obviously has a hang up or is just plain selfish!

Been there..done that...bought him the ticket and sent him on his way!

[skipthisone]

good advice BIBI, sometimes you just have to move on to better your own life or self

[kleclere]

SB I don't get to because my wife says I give her to intense of orgasms. If you tell him how you would like him to do you, he won't know any better. I also like some of ericthered's thoughts. Randy Gal I still am offering my services.

[jonjon]

I would like to ask sort of the opposite question.

From the man's point of view. Are there women or at lest a a fairly good number of women that absolutely don´t like to have cunnilingus performed on them?

Why? Is it so as not to feel obliged to reciprocate?

What would be the answer? I have not met many that don't like it, though some ask on occasion to not do it but it was not a hard rule, except with my wife and it drive me nuts.

Anyone have an idea?

[south]

jonjon are you nuts??? have you seen what this woman looks like??
Her b/F can't be that big of a catch. When you got bait like SB you don't need to spend a lot of time in the boat baby...cast the line and reel'em in. Throw back the ones that are too small or don't taste good.

[Vintage Vixen]

I've seen your pics S.B. if he has a problem with it then it's on him.
If you give more than you receive cut em off lol see how he likes it,it's evil and bitchy but thats not always a bad thing.Honestly though if you truly love him i wouldn't dump him quite yet my suggestion is get a lesbian porn watch it together and say hey see what she's doin.....well do me like that baby.I'm bi and i've had some of the best pussy lickin from another chic....and thats because as women we know where we like to be licked,we know the spots just my suggestion :)

[Murphy]

BiSexBabeDD - I like the way you think! I got my oral education from my babysitter wnd am so thankful she was able to "talk" me thru the first few times- after that it's been moan and scream city any time I find a willing partner. I too have a SO that can't handle it, she says "Too Much! Too much!" and makes me stop beforeI can really get going.

[Vintage Vixen]

Originally posted by Murphy
BiSexBabeDD - I like the way you think! I got my oral education from my babysitter wnd am so thankful she was able to "talk" me thru the first few times- after that it's been moan and scream city any time I find a willing partner. I too have a SO that can't handle it, she says "Too Much! Too much!" and makes me stop beforeI can really get going.


AND THERE YOU HAVE IT PEOPLE :) IT TRULY WILL WORK IF THE OTHER PARTY IS WILLING TAKE NOTES !!! OR BETTER YET GO ALONG WITH THE MOVIE IF IT DOSEN'T WORK THE FIRST TIME,WELL HEY YA CAN ALWAYS REWIND !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Smile Beautiful]

Sorry it took me so long to respond. I did get to do something with my bf this weekend, it's not much though. I initiated 69 (my first time!!!) He was a bit nervous at first but I told him to use his fingers until he felt comfortable. We both liked it, even though he never did substitute his tongue for his fingers. I finally just stopped him.
For those of you who say I should break up with him you should know that I'm not. This may sound like a cheesy line from a love story or a "chick flick" but I love him and that is more important than whether or not he eats me out cause he does satisfy me in many other ways.

:)

Sarah

P.S. We made a video ;)

[Vintage Vixen]

Glad to hear it S.B...Its a start thats great :) And hey if he's open to making a vid then thats veryyyyyy promising !!! Really if you love someone that much then you go for it...hope it go's well.

[Smile Beautiful]

Actually it was his idea to make the video...I was kinda like maybe some other time but then I agreed. But as usual, You are right

:)

Sarah

[south]

Oh please...put your chemistry aside for a moment.
Look at what sort of satisfaction you get from being with him and if that really out weighs his inability to do something with you that you really want. If the pluses outweigh the minuses then fine, have your “chick flix” moment. But consider wisely what were his motivations are and how maturely and seriously he takes this relationship. What were his motivations for making the vid? Who holds the vid? I mean what sort of commitment did he make to you? He sounds like the kind of guy who might have the guys over to watch the vid and boast of how he fucked you. If that happens are you ok with it or do you then feel like trash? Only you can answer these questions. But expect the worst from guys generally they will not disappoint you.

[Smile Beautiful]

Originally posted by south
Oh please...put your chemistry aside for a moment...If the pluses outweigh the minuses then fine, have your “chick flix” moment...But consider wisely what were his motivations...What were his motivations for making the vid? Who holds the vid?...sounds like the kind of guy who might have the guys over to watch the vid and boast of how he fucked you. If that happens are you ok with it or do you then feel like trash? Only you can answer these questions. But expect the worst from guys generally they will not disappoint you.

South, is that what you would do? FYI we watched the "vid" once (not even all the way through) and then we burned it. It takes one big jerk to think up some scheme like that you know? In fact...I was hoping that more of these posts would be supportive instead of telling me to dump my bf. Thank you to the ppl who offered advice that I needed. I am not going to dump my boyfriend because I am not getting laid the way I want to. That is simply not done! Who do you think I am? Some little whore looking for a good time?

[Eros]

South~your comments were uncalled for.

Sarah, glad to hear you finally got him to at least give it a try again. Next time just tell him to get in there and lick everything, when something feels good...by all means tell him. Moan, shiver, scream, let him know somehow. Just my personal technique, I've always used a combo of fingers and tongue. Maybe suggest to him that he finger you while licking your clit. Then later in the session he can replace his fingers with his tongue. At least that way he'll have a heads up on where to go the next time. Good Luck hon!!!

[Wombats Dinner]

I have to agree with lil on this one it definently doesn't get better with time, I was married for 9yrs and my ex made only one misserable attempt at it in the early years but would never do it again, and made no excuses except that he didn't like the taste of fish, which I didn't think was a very nice comparison. Well it never did improve and infact our sex life in general deteriorated more and more over time despite my attempts to improve it, to the point that I eventually had enough and left him a year ago.

[Irish]

SB---Could it possibly be out of embarrassment?My wife always
orgasmed;wonderfully;from that;but doesn't want me to do it
very often;because it was known as a "dirty perversion"when we
were younger.In our youth;women didn't even admit to masturbating.After we were married;we had an honest talk;and it
turned out that she masturbated almost every night!Have an honest talk with him and tell him that it's what you desire!I can tell you;after 30+yrs of marriage;that if he cares about your feelings;he will at least;make an effort! Irish
P.S.Just my $.02.The gate swings both ways!

[south]

No, actually I would do whatever my girlfriend wanted in the bedroom, even if I wasn't enamored with the notion. Am I weak for saying this?, I don’t think so. When I was dating, lo those many years ago when I was just a little spud, I thought that if I really cared and trusted someone enough to maintain a sexual relationship with them then I was committed to making that relationship work. That means give and take. What impressed me in your previous postings that your B/F was pretty good at the take part and not so good at the giving part. It was from what you told us of his past actions that I based, hopefully falsely, my character assination of your B/F.
In the scheme of things you are young and I assume that your B/F is young also. At an early age Women seem to grab a handle on how to maintain a relationship better than men do. In general guys do some stupid stuff. That dosen’t make them necessarily bad guys. They just make stupid choices. (Just look at the car Insurance tables if you need proof of that) It would be foolish to assume that at this point in your lives you two have the same level of emotional maturity. I hope that I am wrong, For your sake I hope that this guy in “Mr. Perfect” or at least “Mr. Perfectly fine the way he is thank you very much”

My comments were rash and I am sorry for that. In no way did I mean to impune your integrity. I just think, once again based on only the information I have read, that this guy may not be the best match for you. You are an exceptionally beautiful woman and you seem sensitive and sincere. You deserve happiness. Don’t settle.

[dude33]

Well, I don't get it. Eating out a woman has got to be one of the most pleasurable experiences to have. I love it when I feel her legs tighten, her breathing faster...

Maybe you could try flavouring?

[krzykrn]

Well as long as you are satisfied with what he gives you then...well, I guess there are no problems. I won't comment on a lot of this thread but I will say this, I find it strange that there is no reciprocation...what one does, one should recieve, and vice versa, but hey that is just me. I like to give back what my lover gives to me, not only to show my appreciation and or love, but also my desire to please her.

[Glyndwr]

Hi Smiles Beautiful

It looks like I'm coming in late to this discussion. My spin on this would be that you are both young and as long as you have open minds it is not too late to learn. Nobody is an immediate expert but it is great fun gaining experience. The main thing is for it not to become an issue between you. Encourage him with mutual kissing and licking over your bodies but avoiding the genitals. Then slowly move closer and deeper. Have fun experimenting ;)

[Smile Beautiful]

Well here is the deal as of a few days ago and today. I found out the real deal by being annoyingly persistant...I'm sure guys know how women can be... Anyway, he flat out told me he didnt like it. Now I feel bad cause I kept asking him to this whole time!! He also said he's not going to ask me to go down on him anymore. But I like doing it! What about that??? Another thing...this should make all the men at Pixies so happy. I'm single now! And no, I didn't dump him. I wouldn't do that in a million years. So I guess I don't need anymore tips...right?

[Slow Ride]

SB............I'm no expert on eating pussy,but

when I go down on my Lady.........I use my fingers as well as my tongue...........and when I go near her clit.........she begs me to stay there................and if I think about moving away form it,she slaps the piss outta me.

I'm not sure it this will help,but I hope it does

*L* Don't slap your B/F(unless your into that) ;) but,personally ,I think the clit thing and the fingers works.

good luck.............I hope things work out for you



sorry, I missed your last post....................forget I said anything..*L*

[Sodbuster]

SB... I've read a lot of your post, and looked at ALL of your pics (my favs). I'm sorry to hear that you're single. I know you'll find another guy (or he'll find you) that can fulfill you emotionally and phyisically. Hope you aren't too sad about the turn of events.

[south]

He is sounding more and more like a "keeper"!
You know maybe I was too rash in my prior comments.
He does have a sense of equality...Now it is no oral for either of you. That is a fairly democratic decision now isn't it? I my opinion Equality sucks!, except in this case.