Need Advice,,,

[Lisa910]

OK,,,just to start I am married but bi-curious and hubby is cool with that,,now where the advice part comes in,,At my job there is a "new" employee (new to the house I work in) and she is gay I know that she has made it VERY apparent,,but my question is I would be cool to hook up with her for my first time,,and she has said things that I take as passes at me,,such as stroking my hair and leaving a rose for me at work,,,little things where I am not completely sure,,,now she knows I am married soo how with out bein totally out there do I let her know that I am interested??? Any suggestions?? And as far as work is concerned that is not a problem I don't work continually with this person,,only see her for like 10-20 minutes in the morning,,
Thanks for any advice
Lisa

[ryder]

invite her over for dinner to meet your hubby, a little (a lot) of wine should get things going just fine.

[jennaflower]

Yep... I am with ryder... invite her over for dinner... and slowly allow your husband to bring up the sexuality topic... and take it from there :)

[Wicked Wanda]

You need tothink about his carefully.
I NEVER sleep with someone from work!!
( OK, I did once, no... twice, well maybe seven or eight times, but NO MORE)
It can lead to serious problems in becoming sexually involved with a co-worker, especially in a WTW relationship ( woman-to-woman)
These office relationships are still not accepted very well.
Also, you are assuming that she would be interested in your hubby sexually. ( if you are thinking of a 3 sum)
If you only want to experiment, and have NO THOUGHT of either having a 3sum, or leaving your hubby, then go have a drink with her, and share with her what you have said here.
She may not be interested in sharing this experience with you. Don't take offence if she doesn't want to do this, she might be looking for a permanent relationship, and not interested in doing this.

Wickedly

Wanda

[Lisa910]

Thanks for the advice,,and FYI my husband would not be included in the package,,, he is not interested in a 3 sum,,,as far as her wanting a relationship I have definintly thought of that,,,that is why I asked everyone's advice because I am NOT looking to leave my husband,,soo I may just see how it plays out,,,but thank you for all your advice :cool:

[grotochp]

i would ask her to lunch and just start as friends or go for coffee then let the topic cum up on its own which it will.

[axe31]

you all ready know she likes you so that a good start
talk over a drink may be your best option. you will need
to be honest with her about what your looking for from
her she may be looking for a relationship were as you
seem to want some fun if you are on the same page
then as long as your hubby is alright with you doing this
you are ok with doing this and she is ok with the situation
then i see no problem