Why doesnt my girlfriend like.....?

[GldnCgr348]

I got a question to all the ladies out there

why doesnt my girlfriend like oral sex? my girlfriend doesn't like to give me head, becuz she doesnt like the way it tasste (accordiing to her anyways), and not only that, she doesnt like me to eat her out. Even though i love to eat girls out, she doesnt want me to do it to her. And she doesnt like me to finger her either.

Anyone have a reason for this?

[Lilith]

Yes ...she is young and possibly still uncomfortable with her own sexuality let alone yours. Time, patience, and a non judgemental attitude will go a long way towards helping her to begin the process of throwing off the typical stereotypes that girls arre fed since birth. We are supposed to look like we want it but not actually want it...lol....go slow and move at a pace she is comfortable with....work with in her comfort zone and then she will slowly begin trusting you (and her own feelings)to lead her in to more adventurous sex.

[jennaflower]

yep.. I agree being young is probably the hang up.. and only time and gentle encouragement will be the only thing that gets her to open up. The longer she is with you, and the more comfortable she feels in her own skin the better the odds that she will open her self up...

[pje]

I know the feeling.We are a young couple and my wife is going through the same thing right now.Although i know some of our problem is just having the baby but still i know where your coming from.

[lixnlix69]

Just a thought here but....ok...I am blurting it out! Is she (and her family) very religious? OK....wait....before you get all over me for this, please hear me out!

A lot of religions condone sex (intercourse) for the purpose of procreation. All other forms of sexual behavior are unnecessary and do not aid the ultimate purpose, children! Foreplay is not a factor........and is drummed into you from the time that sex is introduced into your awakening! You have sex and you tolerate his advances for the purpose of procreation.

If you do not know her religious beliefs......ASK! If she is shy and/or she was a virgin before you came along....TALK! If none of the above applies.................drop back five and punt!

Mrs. Lix

[scotzoidman]

pje, hang in there, I know from personal exp. many new moms have some post-partum depression...if she's suffering with it, you'll suffer with her...and she won't even know why...

[katchoo]

woohoo, first post, and although it may sound like a joke, its serious...

you're cum may taste horrible.

moderate your diet, eat lots of fruit for the natural sugars to make it taste sweeter, and don't eat fish.

i can't explain the eating out, maybe its because she <i>isn't</i> totally at ease, sexually. give it time and don't force anything, maybe she'll come to enjoy it later on in the relationship.

[katchoo]

dammit, why don't html tags work here?

[Lilith]

vB

[katchoo]

thats what i meant...kinda

it should still work though, shouldn't it?

and excuse the crap grammar in my post, its 3am

[sweetc0rn]

GldnCgr348, I think ur gf still aren't very comfortable doing it with u. Maybe she still feel very embarrass having sex with u. She might think u don't like what her pussy taste. I guess do some talking with him might do the trick. Try asking her what she like when u are making love with her. When she feel comfortable with it, I believe she will let u do whatever thing u want too :)

Good luck!

[Bear Bear]

I have the same problem, but she doesn't have a problem at all with me going down on her.

[Oldfart]

GldnCgr348, some perspective please.

Does this girlfriend live with you, or are you still courting?

She seems a lot less interested in the physical relationship

than you. What is the relationship?

Are you in a loving relationship or are you just chasing the physical?

I'm not getting heavy, but the facts are thin on the ground.

Tell us, we're interested to help.

[GldnCgr348]

no i dont live with my girlfriend

we've been going out for almost for a year already

and actually she has mad more sex experience than me

she does tell me all the time on the rare occasions that i do go down on her, she always is worried that it taste bad, im always telling her it doesnt and i love doing it, but she still doesnt like me to do it

All she want is sex, she is not interested in any foreplay.

interesting huh?

[mclarenno2]

my girl is pretty much the same, she loves to be licked but won't return the favour because she was told by her ex she was rubbished and ran her down with every thing, i have told her she is the best, well she is, i have never been sucked to orgasm before, maybe its me, i don't know the advice up the top doesn't seem to work, do i have to put up with it never hapenning?

[jonjon]

This is interesting since I have been married a long time and still she doesn't want to receive oral sex. Some times ontop of panites. Maybe a 2-3 times in more than 10 years. A bit more but not much on the bj.

Don't understand. I thought the girls like to have their pussies eaten. I keep reading that if a guy eats pussy he is a keeper. What about us that like it and can't get it.

What should we do, short of divorce... though that is not to far out there?

[GldnCgr348]

thats exactly what im trying to figure out

[Brian_Watt]

Rushing her is the worst thing you can do. Mention it every once in a while. She will come around, just give it time.

[Oldfart]

The only thing that comes to mind is a big session with some

flavoured edible oil and a plastic sheet.

Slip sliding and groping and eating is an excellent way over

some hurdles.

May not work, but fun trying.

[Steph]

I like giving and receiving oral but I've had some girlfriends who think both are disgusting. It could be the way they're raised. I know one friend thought she had the ugliest vagina in the world. I never saw it, but thought she was overreacting . . . I guess you'll have to practice patience?

[andrew]

Interesting issue


Why don't you ask her?

Andrew

[Samantha]

Why dont you just both talk it out? If she really doesnt want to then there's nothing you can do.

I think it's all the porn movies these days that make all men think that women love to give head and drink cum, and those that don't are either too religious or just plain weird. I don't like it and neither do a few of my friends, though I do it mainly because my boyfriend likes it. It just tastes bad.

[A.K.'s Sex-Pot]

I think i might be able to add something here: I have had a few hang-ups with oral sex, but have been doing my best to get over them and at age 24 i'm in the 'young persons' category too.

I used to be really self conscious about having my pussy eaten and i honestly didn't believe that a man could like the taste. My earlier experiences of sex confirmed this: My first boyfriend couldn't bring himself to do it.

ALSO, he was a big blow job fan and i realise now that he kind of pushed me into doing that before i was ready and once i'd done it once, i didn't feel i could say no. I started to get really anxious nasty feelings attached to the act and ended up hating doing it. Perhaps she would enjoy you eating her once she'd relaxed a bit, but perhaps she knows that she'd then feel obliged to do the same for you. We women put pressure on ourselves when it comes to sex and end up in situations we can't handle. I have now got over both of my hang-ups but the blow job one was only sorted about a month ago after giving one to a completely new guy and loving it. I now have a rule with blow jobs. I won't give one if i'm asked for one and i won't take oral sex if i have to ask for it. It means so much more if your partner is doing it because they really want to.

My advice is don't even mention oral sex for a couple of months. Chances are if she stops feeling like you it's a really big deal, she'll trust you more and be happy to make her own baby steps towards it all by herself. That certainly worked for me, anyway.

Hope it works out for you, hun. x

[GldnCgr348]

thanks everyone, this post has really helped my out, im just gonna stay patient and wait it out, and just see what happens