Does Women Lose Interest In Sex ?

[amale]

I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW IF WOMEN LOSE SEX INTEREST AFTER A PARTICULAR AGE? PLEASE COMMENT. WOMEN ABOVE 40 SHOULD ANSWER THIS - HONESTLY.

[Grumble]

my wife lost interest in sex and me, after our second child, thats why she in now my ex. she was 31 at the time :(

[Samantha]

someone told me that he read research saying that women get hornier and better orgasms as they age unlike guys, and they get become more sexually active around 30. Im not really sure if its true or not.

[amale]

but samantha what happens after 40s

[dick]

Wife is pushing 60 and i'm happy to report the sex is better than ever.
:) :D :p

[vampeyes]

I think that anyone can loose interest in sex women or men..... its unfair to generalize while some women may loose interest we have plenty of Pixies women in the 40s and some past that have definitely not lost interest and some of us have spouses be they male or female that have no matter what the age...

[skipthisone]

I agree with vampeyes that we should not generalize, i think most of loss of interest is in the mind. Some people just choice to put it way down the priority list, and lets face life can get in the way of sex. Sometimes you just want to sleep, after days filled with work, dumbass people, kids and all the stressors we face. Sometimes the mood is just not there.

Now on the other hand my theory is just the opposite. Sex to me is the greatest stress reliever. What is better after a long stressful day than a nice romp in the hay before bed time. You should always be able to fall asleep with a smile on your face.

[Clint]

I agree with vampeyes.................Also, I might add, that it seems like people are becoming more sexually open and more sexually active as time goes on........maybe we're reaching a new height in the peaks of the human sexuality. :D

*Clint

[pje]

yeah sex is becoming a lot more open these days.Before it was like a forbidden thing to see or talk about but these days the more the better.

[andrew]

I'm not sure about age - could be linked to social pressure (real or percieved) or lifestyle.

Your brain (as is so often pointed out here) is the most powerful sex organ. We can all do the physical but it becomes great sex, passionate sex, love-making when it is emotional and mental - though sometimes a wild fuck for fucks sake can be tres sexy.

Andrew

Why not ask the lady your into?

[Sugarsprinkles]

Some women as they approach menopause, or "change of life" as it's sometimes called, do lose interest in sex. She HAS NO CONTROL over this! This happened to me and it lasted for about 10 yrs. It's because of the change in hormone levels. It can happen as early as their 30's. It just depends on each individual woman. For lack of a better way to describe the changing hormone levels you could say it's like puberty in reverse, which I guess it is.
And SOME women never do regain their desire. Others, like myself, regain it very unexpectedly and even stronger than it was prior to menopause.
Then there is the woman who either regains or never loses her desire and regardless of how turned on she gets her lubrication is not there any more. I think this is the most common sexual complaint of "older" women. But fortunately many companies are now marketing a variety of "personal lubrications".

I hope this in some small way answers your question, amale.

[lixnlix69]

amale........I am 44. I have had a child but did not raise him. He is gone, (different story). But I have a theory. I think children wear you out faster. I think a woman's mind set is with that child/children and so a sexual relationship may get put on the back burner till they leave the nest. It exists (the sex) but the full attention is lost for a while. And even after they leave the nest it may never resume the full potential it was in the beginning.

As for me and hubby (a childless couple), we have no distractions and therefore we are extremely sexual and have been for nearly 14 years! We go at it like bunnies at times. I am not saying it doesn't wane. I think that there are times that he would like more or times when I would, but for the most part we have a wonderful sex life. My sexual appetite has never been stronger! I think as I age I become more aware of what it is that I really like and need. I love sex and I love exploring my wants and needs alone and along with hubby. If I had a child I would probably not focus on my feelings and needs as much as I would his/hers.

Just a theory.....but it is my experience!

Mrs. Lix

[amale]

need more response

[dntsmoke]

sorry not a female response, but my wife and I are very active (she is 33). We do go through slow times and very active times, but always the love is there.......sometimes its true, "the best sex is between the ears" If you have a great sex life, it might have alot to do with the relationship with your so.
my 2 cents

[Fondle You]

I wish life was like "Elimidate Deluxe", where women would do almost anything to get a man. :(

[amale]

thanks

[Latisha]

Speaking from experience. I am a 47 years old woman. I began really enjoying sex in my mid thirties and it just keeps getting better. I find that older men concentrate more on pleasing the woman than pleasing themselves right away. Which makes sex much better for older women.

[Vintage Vixen]

After just turning 42 i know for a fact that i've never enjoyed sex more or wanted it more than i do now!My body is much more aware ,i have the best orgasms...than i ever have and all i have to say is 4o's ROCK !!!!!!!!!!

[Little^Sprite]

I've lost interest in men all they see is a sexual object, men are never friends less they have a vested sexual interest.

[amale]

little sprite it may be your attitude of mind - just change your attitude and you will love men and men will love and care for u
take care.

[Lovediva]

Nope Not I...bring on the sex!!!!!!!!!!! :D :D

[amale]

thanks every one for your opinion

[Kentuckyguy]

My wife is 32, and she seems to have lost all intrest in sex, but that is not all bad, this does give me the time to become closer with my right hand.

[Vintage Vixen]

I know a reason i lost interest in sex with my ex is because he was a lowdown cheatin m.f.....we had tons of sex mornin,noon,and nite and it was great,then when i admiited to myself that the loser was cheating he made my skin crawl...i kicked his losing ass out.Now he's kickin himself in the ass lol 7 yrs later funny cuz he stopped here earlier asking if i needed anything.So there are many reasons why a women would lose interest thats just one of mine.

[Pussy Willow]

I wouldn't say I'd lost interest, I find that this is time in my life
when I'm freer to be sexier.

I will say that I'd rather take care of it myself sometimes,
because it seem to more about what he wants lately.

When we do connect the sex is AWESOME, but there are times
when "a girl's gotta' do what a girl's gotta' do !!!!!!

And I do love my sex toys !!!!!!!

[amale]

thanks

[Angel_25]

hey sumtimes it comes down to the partners- regardless of how old people are! it can be how our partners feel or treat us that can make us want sex - but guess thats a whole nother thread lol

[BIBI]

Originally posted by Lovediva
Nope Not I...bring on the sex!!!!!!!!!!! :D :D


:D I second that emotion ......49 and still cookin'

[ImAllDD]

I am 42 and it seemed that sex was at the all time high for me. But lately, and I dont think it has anything to do with age, I have lost intreast but due to I'm not happy with my situation. But I had become to love sex anyway and I think anyone (well???)

[BlueSwede]

I agree w/SugarSprinkles that women's desire can be greatly influenced by their hormones. Menopause can wreak havoc on our bodies, as can bearing children. I think the amount of stress and the nature of the relationship between 2 people can be even bigger factors. If a woman is trying to handle a full-time job, raising kids, maintaining a household, and seeing to her man's nonsexual needs, she may have next to no energy left for sexual ones of his or her own.

For me personally, my sex drive is as strong or stronger than it ever was. Orgasms take longer to achieve, which can be very frustrating at times, but they are better and more varied than ever before. And I still find, as I always have, that my sex drive is usually higher than my partner's, when I'm lucky enough to have a partner, that is. I'm 55--closer to 56, in fact.

[krzykrn]

Not to reiterate what everyone else has said (but I am going to right? you knew that so don't you all look at me like that ;)) but it doesn't matter if it is a male or female, anyone can lose interest and it has nothing to do with age, it could be anything, like others had said from hormones or to how their partner treated them ect.

As for personal experience, while not a woman, the one older woman I know is more sexual than I am! She is 47 and loving her sex life, she kind of had a re-awakening many months ago...now she is on the loose, watch out! :D

On a side note Little^Sprite, it sounds like you have had some bad experiences which makes you feel the way you do, but your statement is a vast generalization. I and I am sure many men on this site, have female friends who they don't see as sexual objects. Someday I hope you find someone to disprove your statement.

[sn250s]

This is a complex question. My personal experience with my wife is: Hormone changes suck.

After we had our first child my wife's desire went up a lot. Yaa! :)

After our second it went to zero and I do mean zero. It was postpardum talking but damn it sucks when you come home and she tells you she is never going to have sex with you again - then two months later she's crying because "you never make love to me."

Stay cool, just stay cool.

Her drive bounces like a yo-yo now. I'm sure it's a combination of hormone changes and "overworked by the kids."

No amount of effort on my part seems to be able to fix it.

The worst part; even when we do it now it doesn't feel real. It's nothing like it used to be.

She won't talk about it. Life sucks.