Do you really want to know?

[jennaflower]

Do you want to know if your lover is really satisfied every time you make love... or would you be just as happy to let her pretend some of the time??

[PantyFanatic]

and how do you measure "satisfied" Jenna? ;)

[jennaflower]

hmmm... now that is a tough question. I don't measure my satisfaction by orgasms... tho I guess somewhere within my brain, I would measure his satisfaction by the amount of orgasms he has.... guess that would be considered a double standard huh?

[Boru]

i don't ever want pretending. i can handle the occasional "less than stellar" performance. What I would want to know is how to make it better, not have her pretend it was great.

Happiness is never having to lie about anything.


BORU

[Nice Guy]

I usually want to know if they were satisfied cause I don't want them to be unhappy.

[axe31]

they can tell me any time if iam doing some thing wrong
better if they tell me so i can get to know wat they like
check egos at the door guys

if you fake it then its your own fault

[throbbinurgency]

Do you want to know if your lover is really satisfied every time you make love... or would you be just as happy to let her pretend some of the time?? [/QUOTE]

for me, it is more exciting, fulfilling, satisfying, to know that she is truly satisfied,, i guess that is the 'pleaser' in my nature,,,
there is nothing better than hearing moans of genuine pleasure coming from her, that has the effect of making the lovemaking more intense, more memorable,,,

[dicksbro]

Hard to answer about every time, but I do like knowing if what I'm doing are things that are bringing pleasure for my wife. Long ago realized that not every time would necessarily result in an orgasm for her (and a few times that's even been true with me).

I do want her to be able to experience pleasure and be 'satisfied' anyway. Strive for fireworks, but sometimes settle for a milk-shake. :)

I suspect there have been times when maybe either she or I weren't really as in tune with what was happening as the other, and at times like that, I want to still present an image of maybe experiencing a little more pleasure ( or appreciation?) than perhaps what I am actually feeling. Don't think that I am deceiving or even wanting to deceive her in those cases, but I do want her to know how much her effort meant. I think she's done the same and I considered that an act of love, not deception.

[BIKER ROGUE]

I would prefer to know. I really like satisfying women and that makes it even better for me when I do.
I find that taking my time and getting her ready or actually climaxing before I do works well.

[Lilith]

Constructive criticism is appreciated...

[skipthisone]

You have to have knowledge to get better....so if its bad or so-so got to pass it on...on the other hand there is nothing wrong with the once in a while one sided sexual encounter...I have nothing wrong with giving a little oral once in a while that wipes her out that she doesnt need to give back, cause lets face it guys (and you know who you are) youve jumped on the quicky once in a while and it did very little for her...turnabout is fair play

[Coach Knight]

Yes I really do want to know if she is satisfied. My S/O absolutely refuses to fake an orgasm. That's fine. Sometimes not everything works the way it's supposed to.
But I think Andrew Dice Clay had this line in his act:
Why do women fake orgasms?
Because they think we care.

Just a funny thought.

CK

[Irish]

If she pretended;I would figure that I wasn't doing my job(holding
up my end)I want her to look forward to sex;not to think of it as
something that she has to do.I realise that;she won't always orgasm;thru intercourse.For years;I have always gotten her off at
least three(3) times;by finger or tongue;before intercourse!I am the type;that derives;no satisfaction;unless;my partner is satisfied also. Irish
P.S.Sex is like running a business.A satisfied customer is a repeat
customer.Like business;my motto;has always been:Do it right;or;
don't do it at all!

[BIKER ROGUE]

There have been times that my S/O Gave me oral and wanted nothing in return. When questioned she answered I get pleasure from making you cum and being happy.
I feel the same way when I do her. There is much more to it. Some times it is better than other but if you are always considerate of your partners needs and wants,it will come back to you in kind.
Try to experiment and a little coaching helps too. Practice and practice and learn each time you have sex. Tell each other what feels good.

[big_yin]

I can honestly say that I am with Biker Rogue. I get as much enjoyment in fulfilling my s/o in every way she desires than being satisfied myself!

Other times, I can be a real greedy b****r and just want it for me!
Double standards????

You decide!

[Mytaru]

i'm going to have to say that its a sometimes thing...sometimes you want to know what you can do to get better, other times its satisfying just knowing they were well taken care of and happy about it.

I don't think of sex as always wanting to cum, there are lots of ways to be satisfied and sometimes i wouldn't cum but i'd still feel good about how it went. Anyone else ever feel like that?

[Steph]

I feel like that sometimes, Mytaru. Sometimes I don't cum but the intimacy level is really high. I enjoy getting him off sometimes and I don't mind if he's too overwhelmed to reciprocate. I've been with guys who think they've failed it I don't cum but I don't look at lovemaking as a pass/fail type of activity.

[sassypantz]

A women's perspective: We ladies have got it a little easier than you gents - usually. Things tend to be a little more obvious when we are doing things just right. Personally speaking, when I'm with a partner, all of my energy is put into pleasing him. I ask questions. I want to know what he likes, and how to get him off. So when it's my turn, I make sure he knows when he is doing something right. And if he's not, i'm not shy, I'll help.

[Ando3]

I really like and want my partner to be satisfied every time we get together... whether it be sex, oral sex, phone sex, cyber... whatever. But if she doesn't cum and she is ok with it... I am too!

If she isn't ok with it... then its try try again and again and again...

[Murphy]

I agree with most of the above posts. In my opinion, the better you give, the better you get. I love watching my partner enjoy herself...and always hope to get her over the top and keep her there long before I reach the peak myself...but as long as we both enjoy the experience, that's what counts.

[huskie]

i think that when you are in a relationship... its good to know so you can make it better each time :)

apart from that... sometimes great.. sometimes just good.


i quote from a movie called threesome.

"sex is like pizza, even when its bad... its still pretty good!"

[Scarecrow]

and some times a little help from are electronic friends are needed.

[Brian_Watt]

I can tell when my girl is satisfied after sex, she has this euphoric look on her face, then she lets out a long, from the bottom of her stomach, sigh.

When she does that, I know I have done my part.