cyber sex.. cheating or not?

[PCPete]

ive been pondering this for a while

does it count as cheating if you are talking sexually to people online? or is it just like masterbation.. it doesnt matter who (or what) your thinking about?!!?

[Coach Knight]

This is an excellent question. Some might think it is cheating and it might be if your doing it all hours of the day and lying to your SO about what you're doing. I have done it and felt a little guilty afterward. Some might consider online sex an enabler to a meeting in person. If you're typing with one hand and exchanging very intimate feelings with someone, especially over a long period of time, you could be inclined to agree to meet with them.

[sweetc0rn]

Oh manz... PCPete, u really got me pondering about this question... I think its a self masturbate thing... but if u keep meeting ur so-call-online-lover to 'masturbate' together and talk abt intimate things... I think it is counted as cheating and unfair to your real lover isn't it?

[Sharni]

There are already several threads covering this subject....have a bit of a search through the archives and you'll get quite a few answers to the question :)

[lixnlix69]

I am gonna try and answer this with as few words as possible.

YES! It is cheating....whether you actually touch or not.......you ARE having sex WITH another person other than your S/O. So therefore, you are "cheating".

I am not saying this is the worst form that cheating can take. As a matter of fact I am not judging or condemning at all. Cyber is probably the lesser form of all the ways a person can cheat. But according to...................

Webster's Collegiate- "Cheat".....to be sexually unfaithful.....to violate rules unfaithfully.

So, who am I to judge the knowledge of Mr. Webster himself?

Mrs. Lix

[Prophet Reality]

My toughts only on this.

I myself don't think of it as cheating. If your SO knows about it and is okay with it. If you are lying to your SO then that is a different matter. But who I am to condem amy of it.

But as far as cyber sex goes, I am with Mrs. Lix, I think that this is the lesser of evils. I would much rather find out that my SO is having cyber sex with someone, then actually out having sex with someone live.

My ex and I had this discussion and there were times when we would actually go looking for someone to have a cyber threesome with. It made us very horny and we would have some really good sex afterwards.

[bucksman]

OK I admit it - I have enjoyed cyber in the past and never considered it cheating - more an alternate to masturbation. These have all been chance meetings and I have never sought to develop them into anything more.

I would agree that if you are in a stable real-life relationship and also indulge in cyber, you are cheating on your partner. Effectively you are saying that your real-life relationship is not sufficiently fulfilling and that you crave something else or more. Sure, as said above, it is the lesser of a number of evils but it is probably an indication that you need to discuss your sexual needs openly with your current partner to see if you can get what you need within a loving relationship.

[Lovediva]

What's cyber sex??

[Lilith]

I am with Diva here...please explain what is meant by this term.... cyber sex??? I am unfamiliar with that ;)

[RandyGal]

Diva and Lilith....


are YOU asking ME???


Stop looking at me!



I have NO idea what you're talking about.

None whatsoever.


Nadda.

:p

[Lovediva]

RandyGal!!!!! I wasn't looking at you...I was looking at the guy on your monitor!!!!!! ;) :D :p :D

[prettyviolet]

Okay, I'm gonna take a chance here.....I do not consider sexual chatting as cheating, and if my SO doesn't know about it, so what? What SO doesn't know, doesn't hurt SO....Right? Right. Besides, if SO were paying attention, he would know and therefore would have the opportunity to give me what I need/want....My chats are an extension of masterbation, and I don't want to get into a personal relationship as a result of them. All I want to do is have a good time, maybe exchange pictures, and have something to get wet about....no different in my mind than reading a magazine or book.

Prettyviolet

[RandyGal]

Who?? This guy??

Oh....that's just my...


Doctor.

Yeah, that's it. He's my doctor and yes, I keep his picture on my computer.

Yes. He does look like a movie star, doesn't he?

I LOVE my doctor!

*licking my lips!*

(the MM on his uniform stands for Magnificent Man and he is too, don't you think?)

YUMMY!!!!

[Lilith]

Damn him!!!!! He said I was his one and only!!!!:D:D

[RandyGal]

Well he and I met online and I must say, our real life meeting was hot hot hot!!

Ssssssssssssssssssssssizzling!!

As you can see by the picture Lilith...he obviously has a thing for me so you can just back away quietly, ok?

I'll let you know when I'm done with him. ;)

[Scarecrow]

what is your definition of cheating?? If your S/O knows and aproves of a sexual encounter, is that cheating?? So many questions and no answers.

[asp]

If you're talking sex with someone else....I don't think cheating is your biggest problem. If you know what I mean.

[Lovediva]

RandyGal and Lil...how does it feel to have sloppy seconds ???? ;) :D

I had "The Good Doctor" last year!!!!! :p :p

LMAO!
But let me tell you...he is one hell of a OBGYN!!!!!!!!!!!:gld: :D

[RandyGal]

Yes, but Diva.....did he wear his sexy "uniform" when he was with YOU???

I mean really, it's part of his allure quite frankly, don't you think?

Those stripes.

Those boots.

That helmet!

*whew* is it getting warm in here or is it just me?

What a hottie.....and he KNOWS he's a hottie too. Just look at that body language. It SCREAMS "I AM MAN-MEAT!!!"

I know you're jealous. Don't be. There'll be someone out there just like him for you Diva and Lilith.


:p :p ;) :D :p

[Lovediva]

Not only did he wear it Ms. RandyGal, "Doc, let me take it off with my teeth as he stripped for me!!!!

I think you are just making up a whole bunch of silly excuses RG because you are upset that I got to him first!! :p :p :p

I am the Goddess ya know!!! ;) :D ROTFLMFAO!!!!

[RandyGal]

Well..................

I suppose there IS enough of him to go around.

I feel sooooooooooooo used though! You'd THINK he would have mentioned his other conquests.

p.s. you can't see it in the photo but he's also wearing a wonderful tablecloth...er......cape around his neck. what a DUDE!!! LOL LOL LOL

[Lovediva]

Ohhh I don't want him anymore RandyGal...you can keep him!!!;)

He couldn't keep up to me sexually! :D :D

[Lilith]

Damn it!!!!! I am guilty for God's sake stop rubbing it in!!!!!!!! :o :o :o :o :p :p :p

[lixnlix69]

scarecrow........Scenario: You are sitting at your puter and cybering with another. Your S/O comes into the room.....You.....

1~ Shut down the screen and say....."Hello honey, what's up"?, while hiding your obvious sexual arousal.

2~ Tell the person your are cybering with that your S/O has just entered the room and we can now have a threesome. Your S/O says "It's ok honey, I was just going to the store and I wanted to let you know. I'll be back soon, have fun"!

3~ Your S/O enters the room and hits you over the head with a cast iron frying pan, knocking you out cold!

LOL!!!!!...Does this clarify anything?

Mrs. Lix

[joenj]

Originally posted by prettyviolet
Okay, I'm gonna take a chance here.....I do not consider sexual chatting as cheating, and if my SO doesn't know about it, so what? What SO doesn't know, doesn't hurt SO....Right? Right. Besides, if SO were paying attention, he would know and therefore would have the opportunity to give me what I need/want....My chats are an extension of masterbation, and I don't want to get into a personal relationship as a result of them. All I want to do is have a good time, maybe exchange pictures, and have something to get wet about....no different in my mind than reading a magazine or book.

Prettyviolet

Prettyviolet, I agree with you. It feels good to have someone be able to get me hard or for me to make them wet or more.

[Scarecrow]

It would be close to senario #2, she's not into puter chat. If S/O knows and does not mind I don't see how it can be cheating.:)

[Sugarsprinkles]

I've been trying to ignore this thread but I just can't anymore.

This is my PERSONAL OPINION on the subject:

1. If you cyber and you also have a S/O apparently you aren't
getting what you need/want either sexually or emotionally or
both from your S/O.

2. If you aren't getting what you need from your S/O, and have
discussed these needs with said S/O, and your S/O either won't
or can't meet these needs I believe you are justified in getting
these needs met another way.

3. Cyber-sex is certainly safer than "real" sex with a partner who
may have and can infect you with an STD, it also cannot cause
pregnancy.


4. Masturbating by yourself or with the above mentioned
accompaniments (sp?) is not cheating. You haven't had physical
sexual contact with another person.

5. Cyber-sex is not much different than masturbating while
watching a porn movie or looking at sexual pictures or while
reading erotic stories.

6 If masturbating is not cheating and cyber-sex is not much
different, then cyber-sex is not cheating either.

7. If YOU think it's cheating.......
DON'T DO IT!!!!!!

[lixnlix69]

scarecrow.........Now you have an answer....It's that simple hun!

Sugarsprinkles......I am of the opinion that if you cyber and you have a S/O.......it doesn't NECESSARILY mean you aren't getting what you need/want sexually or emotionally.......maybe you are just into "VARIETY".....and can take this variety to your personal relationship at another time. I don't want anyone to think that I think cybering is wrong! I think it can add to your relationship if you include your S/O and tell him/her what you have learned or want to try as a result.

Also......(trying not to be a stickler here).......Masterbating, looking at a magazine and pondering, watching a porn film, etc., are all NON-cheating activities as they DO NOT include another person in a conversation of desires and wants and "what I could do to you if I were with you at this moment"!

When you are in a "cybering conversation" you and another "REAL" person are trading thoughts as to what you are doing to one another at that very moment. If your S/O knows and approves of it....it CANNOT be construed as cheating........But if your S/O has no knowledge of "it" and you perpetually hide the fact as they enter the room or you sneak away to be alone to do "it", and you never initiate "it" into your relationship.....then I have to say you are indeed cheating! Even though you haven't had "Physical Sexual Contact", you have had "Sexual Contact" with another person, live and in real time, and so therefore you are decieving your S/O if they have no knowledge of this activity! Decieving sexual behavior is in definition....cheating!

I am not trying to start an argument here.......I just want the masses to understand that there is an answer to this...... But you have to look inside yourself for that answer. And as Sugarsprinkles said in #7....If you think it's cheating.....don't do it!!!!!

I want to add..........If you have to ask.......then you probably already know the answer!

Mrs. Lix

[1wildpussycat]

I have to agree with lix.......if you need to ask then you know the answer.....it all comes down to what you feel is right or wrong......for me....i am a very open person and if my mate wants to cyber or look at pics or have phone sex.....then i have no problem with it....as long as he is honest with me about it...however what's good for the goose is good for the gander....that's what i think most ppl forget......so i say before you do have cyber it might be a good idea to stop and ask yourself how you would feel if it was your partner doing it!!!! then make your choice

But hey its just my Opinion

[lixnlix69]

Yea............What 1wildpussycat said.........Damn hun....I should have summed it up so good.....but NOOOOOOO.....I just had to go on and on and on!!!!.....LOL!!!!

Mrs. Lix

[love_2licku]

3. Cyber-sex is certainly safer than "real" sex with a partner who may have and can infect you with an STD, it also cannot cause pregnancy.

Hmmm, they learnt me in skool that if I cum on the skreen, she wood get pregnated :( They lie? =..(

LOL jk ;) You cant get pregnant by cummin on the screen, only if she is spread real wide cause cum dont travel too good on the information supa-highway /nod :D

Ok, back to the question at hand lol

I have mixed feelings about the whole thing. I dont think its cheating if you aren't getting what you need from your SO. Some SO's are just tight asses(no pun intended lol) So, you gotta get it somewhere, right??? The cyber thing for me is more or less like masturbation of the mind, which somehow turns out to revolve around my hand...somehow /shrug lol

Personally, a previous SO didnt attract me as much as before, so I used porn and chatting to get me going. Then, go do my "chore". I knew she wanted sex but I didnt want to do it so I had to get it up somehow eh? lol Maybe thats wrong, but o well, it kept her happy in bed which keep me in the clear for a few days :D It was her looks that turned me off like a lightbulb, it was the attitude. So...I went with an attitude that I liked to get my mind where it needed to be to get my body where it was needed. To me, I dont consider that wrong.

[love_2licku]

1wild, good comment at least to know if you want to ask of not. But when it's asked, it doesnt always turn out good. I wanted to bring an extra in the bedroom or at least do toys...something! I wanted her to open up and play alittle, but she didnt like that idea. Bringing in the extra was really just to piss her off, since I KNEW she wouldnt go for it, even though I would consider it. I also found out that the "if you let me bring a girl, ill bring a guy for you too to be fair" bit DONT work ROFL! I was trying my hardest but failed :D I was just tired of the "little house on the prairre sex". Ya know...only the old-fashioned way *sigh*

[Murphy]

Also......(trying not to be a stickler here).......Masterbating, looking at a magazine and pondering, watching a porn film, etc., are all NON-cheating activities as they DO NOT include another person in a conversation of desires and wants and "what I could do to you if I were with you at this moment"!


I beg to differ...Masturbating to pornography and masturbating during cyber are one and the same. Both involve self-gratification aided by extrnal non-physical stimuli. The difference between telling a cyber partner what you imagine doing, and imagining what you would do to the subject(s) of the pornography is moot. Both can be construed as cheating....if one's belief system includes the 6th and 10th commandments, or similar morals.
(for those who can't remember: VI: Thou shalll not commit Adultery, X: Thou shal not covet thy neighbor's house; You shall not covet your neighbor's wife, nor his manservant or his maidservant...or anything that is thy neighbor's.) I'm not trying to preach here, just trying to make the point that, as far as cheating goes, IF you define cheating as "Anything that involves sex without your SO", then both cyber and pornography are cheating.

In short, Miss Lix, you can't have it both ways....if one is cheating, then so is the other. If one is harmless recreaton, then so is the other.

[Steph]

Originally posted by Sugarsprinkles

1. If you cyber and you also have a S/O apparently you aren't
getting what you need/want either sexually or emotionally or
both from your S/O.

2. If you aren't getting what you need from your S/O, and have
discussed these needs with said S/O, and your S/O either won't
or can't meet these needs I believe you are justified in getting
these needs met another way.



This is EXACTLY how I feel, too. I was recently dating a guy who obviously wasn't doing it for me because I'd log in here after seeing him. Now, I've been dating a guy for over a month (yes, that's why I'd disappeared for a while ;) who is UNBELIEVABLE in bed. He's made me multi-orgasmic . . . there's no need to cum in here. But I came back for a visit because I miss all you fabulous pixie posters! :)

Steph

[lixnlix69]

It's wonderful to see you again Steph. So glad you came back for a hello and I am happy to hear of your new and exciting relationship.

Try not to be such a stranger

Mrs. Lix

[lixnlix69]

Murphy.......I think we can agree to disagree then. I just happen to think that it can't be cheating if there is no actual communication with another person. Masterbating to a movie or a picture does not involve communication between you and the subject. You, alone, are the only person involved and aware of a sexual feeling caused by the image. You can't be accused of cheating if the subject isn't even aware that you exist.

I think this is how the argument "If a tree falls in a forrest and no one is around, is there a sound as it falls", got started! LOL! Or the "chicken and the egg" question!

As I said before I am not trying to be argumentitive here and I don't think I am trying to have my cake and eat it too, so to speak, I am just being logical. I never defined cheating as "Anything that involves sex without your S/O". What I actually said is......

Masterbating, looking at a magazine and pondering, watching a porn film, etc., are all NON-cheating activities as they DO NOT include another person in a conversation of desires and wants and "what I could do to you if I were with you at this moment"!

Murphy, if you want to define cheating as "Anything that involves sex without your S/O, than this is where we can at least agree to disagree! You say potato, I say potahto.......LOL!

As for the commandments........To each his own in the religion department. I happen to be an atheist. So the parables may be lost on me. But I know the masses have to believe as they believe and may find consolation and direction in the point you made there.

So, maybe we are back to the original question.......and I still say....the answer is within yourself.....if you have to ask....you probably already know the answer!

Mrs. Lix

[1wildpussycat]

well i think Murphy has a very good point......i believe if you are with a partner....and yet when playing with your self to the thought of another person it is cheating...but i still say if both people know.....and both people agree it is fine...then all the power to them

[legend]

bring on the atheists! I think I might start a religion about not having a religion......hmmmm :p

[Oldfart]

Legend

What about the second coming?

[Clint]

I consider sharing anything that is sexually intimate with a person other than your signifigant other cheating. And seeing as how cyber sex does involve the sharing of intimacy, then yes, it is most definatley cheating in my opinion.

[winter]

Ok if your kidding yourself that cybersex isnt cheating, then maybe you should ask your S/O to go online and cyber with someone, see how that makes you feel. And if it makes you feel nothing, then you shouldnt have that S/O.

[scotzoidman]

Originally posted by winter
Ok if your kidding yourself that cybersex isnt cheating, then maybe you should ask your S/O to go online and cyber with someone, see how that makes you feel. And if it makes you feel nothing, then you shouldnt have that S/O. Ok, 1st off, some of us don't do the jealousy thing...whatever it takes for my S/O to get fired up (within reason, & I can be VERY reasonable) is ok with me, as long as I get the benfits of it. And 2nd, some folks here still love & care deeply about their S/O, but have a sex drive mismatch problem...are they to throw away a great long-term relationship for sex, or suffer quietly & stay? Life gets too complicated for quicky B/W answers sometimes...

[winter]

its apparent if you love your S/O then you should feel bad, to do anything unfaithful. And if your mismatched in sex, then someone is doing something wrong, someones holding back. Is sex an important thing in a relationship (yes), but if you love your mate, then maybe you should follow Dr. Ruth's advice. SPICE IT UP! Your only hurting yourself in the long run. Why not go out and screw things up with the real thing, instead of your hand, if your going to cheat, and maybe get eventually caught, then do it for something worth it. Cyber is just hype. Doesnt do anything for me, I got a man that can take care of me 3 maybe 4 times a day, and then some. We only stop for much needed rest, and then our engines are up and running again. Sex isnt only for the bedroom. >>>>>Just a Little friendly Advice<<<<<<<<<< cheating is for losers.

[RandyGal]

Wow winter! I'm glad you have all the answers but sometimes it isn't all as simple as you make it.

Don't be quick to judge until you've been in other peoples shoes, please.

Mismatched mates DO happen and often partners stay together for many reasons and the sex isn't necessarily one of them. I think it's up to each individual and/or couple to decide what is cheating for THEM......I would never presume to know what another couple can and can't do in their marriage or their lives. That is THEIR business, and it isn't for ME to try to make them feel guilty.


It's great that you have all your needs met. That's always a good thing. :)

[Sugarsprinkles]

Originally posted by winter
I got a man that can take care of me 3 maybe 4 times a day, and then some. <<<<< cheating is for losers.

Well, well, aren't you just the lucky one!!

Goody for you...you can get it 3 or 4 times a day! Congratulations!!

Excuse me while I get graphic here....
I happen to be married to a man who suffers from erectile dysfunction. He CAN'T perform. I understand and know this is not his fault. BUT...then he also is unwilling, for reasons known only to him, to satisfy me in any other way. I think that he thinks he's doing what's best by "not starting what he can't finish" and thinks I wouldn't be satisfied any other way. BUT...be that as it may...
Am I supposed to simply do without for the rest of my life?? I have already done without for 12 years!! I think it's unrealistic and totally unfair to expect someone in my situation to live like this forever!!
Grow up, honey...things aren't always as simple as you think!!

[Murphy]

SS: You said it girl! I love my DW dearly, but there are things no one need know about that make it neessary for me to look elsewhere. It would hurt her terribly if she knew, so she doesn't.

And Summer, or anybody else, before you judge me, My DW is getting what she wants, when she wants it, and so am I. We're both happy and that, I think, is the important thing.

[Irish]

What this whole thing(all of the replys)shows;is that everyone has a different opinion!If everyone is happy with what they are
doing and not hurting another;that's what counts!I agree that people;do have;different sex drives.Not being constantly satisfied
;by your mate;doesn't mean that your mate doesn't satisfy you.
There are 24hrs. in a day;and they can't be with you all of them.
Irish
P.S.Don't give me that old self disipline story.Not everyone is a
priest.Besides;everyone doesn't like little boys.(Couldn't resist
that.)

[Lilith]

Wrong season Murphy!!!!!!:D:D:p

[Murphy]

OOPS! Thanks Lilith! I get writing so fast I forget to check my sources....

Many apologies to Summer, wherever she may be...

[Roostah]

Ahhh... cyber... I wish I got it more, cyber or otherwise!

Different people have different sex drives, and it's perfectly normal and appropriate to masturbate if your partner does not have the same sex drive as you.

Whether you have to resort to a magazine or video, or you can find a wonderful person to chat away your sexual frustration with, it is pretty much the same.

The jealousy thing is something completely different! It's just a matter of finding a good, and interesting release. Most people only have one computer, so it's more than likely that the one who works less will have the bigger appetite, and therefore would need a couple of snacks during the day...am I still making sense?

[Irish]

Murphy---It's Summer,Fall,Winter,Spring.GOT THAT? Irish
P.S.Daylight savings time doesn't count!

[NaughyNadia]

Giving this some thought. Seems there is a lot of ways this can go.

What if you chat with someone and masturbate, but don't tell them, or your S/O? OR, just a "one-nighter"... i.e. one or both of you masturbate, but never hope to see each other or meet online again?

What about solo masturbation? (Is that redundent?) Does it take two (or more) to be "unfaithful" according to the definition supplied by LixnLix69?

[Summer]

Originally posted by Murphy
OOPS! Thanks Lilith! I get writing so fast I forget to check my sources....

Many apologies to Summer, wherever she may be...

Thank you Murphy for the apology hehe! :D
-Summer :)

[Grumble]

Irish,
Sorry mate have to differ about the seasons
Its Spring, Summer, Autumn and Winter. Dunno where fall came from its a North American term only I think.

[Irish]

grumbleguts---They must not have had the Howdy Doody show in
Australia!They always said:Summer,Fall,Winter,Spring.Just ask the
Princess.I have to admit that Australia makes good actors tho.My
favorite male actors are Mel Gibson and Russel Crowe! Irish
P.S.Now if I only could figure out;how to make Val Kilmer Australian.

[Thinker]

The term for that time between summer and winter we call fall, is normally called fall in more temperate to cold climates because thats when all the leaves "fall" off the trees.

[Grumble]

I live in a temperate climate 42 degees south latitude comaparble to Boston. Fall is in common use mainly in the US, the rest of the world calls this season Autumn

from the Macquarie Dictionary: see #43

autumn
/'awtuhm/ noun
1. the season of the year between summer and winter;( in the Southern Hemisphere, usually understood to include March, April and May.)
2. a period of maturity passing into decline. [L autumnus; replacing ME autompne, from OF]

fall
/fawl/ verb (fell , fallen , falling ) --verb (i)
1. to descend from a higher to a lower place or position through loss or lack of support; drop.
2. to come down suddenly from a standing or erect position: to fall on one's knees.
3. to become less or lower: the temperature fell ten degrees.
4. to hang down; extend downwards: her hair falls to her waist.
5. to be cast down, as the eyes.
6. to succumb to temptation.
7. to lose high position, dignity, character, etc.
8. to succumb to attack: the city fell to the enemy.
9. to be overthrown, as a government.
10. to drop down wounded or dead; be slain: to fall in battle.
11. to come as if by dropping, as stillness, night, etc.
12. to come by lot or chance: their choice fell upon him.
13. to come by chance into a particular position: to fall among thieves.
14. to come to pass; occur; happen: Christmas falls on a Monday this year.
15. to have proper place: the accent falls on the first syllable.
16. come by right: the inheritance fell to the only surviving relative.
17. (of speech, etc.) to issue or proceed: the words that fall from his lips.
18. to lose animation, as the face.
19. to slope, as land.
20. to be directed, as light, sight, etc., on something.
21. to come down in fragments, as a building. --verb (copular)
22. to pass into some condition or relation: to fall asleep, in love, into ruin.
23. to become: to fall sick, pregnant, vacant, due. --verb (t)
24. to fell (trees, etc.) --noun
25. the act of falling, or dropping from a higher to a lower place or position; descent, as of rain, snow, etc.
26. the quantity that descends.
27. a becoming less; a lowering; a sinking to a lower level.
28. the distance through which anything falls.
29. (usually plural) a cataract or waterfall.
30. downward slope or declivity. 31. a falling from an erect position, as to the ground: to have a bad fall. 32. a hanging down. 33. a succumbing to temptation; lapse into sin. 34. surrender or capture, as of a city. 35. proper place: the fall of an accent on a syllable. 36. Wrestling a. the fact or a method of being thrown on one's back by an opponent and held down with both shoulders on the canvas for a specific period of time, usually a count of three; a pinfall. b. a bout, or one of the best of three victories which go to make up a bout: to try a fall. 37. a loosely hanging veil, or the like. 38. a woman's hairpiece with long, loose hair. 39. a piece of leather at the end of a whiplash to which the cracker is attached. 40. Machinery the part of the rope of a tackle to which the power is applied in hoisting. 41. (plural) Nautical the apparatus used in lowering or hoisting a ship's boat. 42. Hunting-->deadfall. 43. Chiefly US autumn. 44. a stand of trees suitable for felling.
--phrase 45. fall about , Colloquial to laugh immoderately.

[Sharni]

Originally posted by Irish P.S.Now if I only could figure out;how to make Val Kilmer Australian. [/B]
Oh Irish....just pack him up and send him on over....i promise to look after him Real good ;):p:D

[lixnlix69]

Don't know why I am doing this but I always play the "Devil's Advocate" in a debate.............

*Winter, Spring, Summer or Fall.............. All ya got to do is call............ And I'll be there.......yes I will.......You've got a friend!!!!!!!*

Can we really disagree with James Taylor?????????????

What was the subject anyway????????

Mrs. Lix

[Lilith]

James Taylor is my GOD!!!!!:D:D:p.....best concert! damn good!!!!

[Grumble]

James Taylor or not, the correct name of the season is Autumn, Fall is just a nickname

[Oldfart]

Autumn is our name for it,not theirs. Just as an American pint is 16oz

and the Imperial pint is 20oz.

Names can make a difference.

[Sugarsprinkles]

Does it really matter if someone calls it Fall or Autumn? It's not important enough to get upset about is it? It's the same season no matter what anyone calls it. It's as silly as arguing whether the tool is correctly called a "wrench" or a "spanner", or is the vehicle a "truck" or a "lorry", "torch" or "flashlight", "elevator" or "lift", it's just a different word for the same thing.

Can we all play nice now????:D ;)

[legend]

i've said it before and i'll say it again....NOBODY is taking a a piss in my bathroom :D

[Grumble]

Hey, I am not getting upset, just having some flippant chatter.
This is fun for me and totally amicable for my part. Sorry if anyone got the idea this is deadly serious, you will know if I get mad, steam comes out of my ears LOL.

we dont need to fall out over this LMAO!!!! :D

[scotzoidman]

And thus another thread gets hijacked somehow... ;)

[Lilith]

<<<<<<<<<< is asking $85679843760968759876 in ransom:D:D:p

[skipthisone]

wasnt this thing about cybersex???

Dammit i want sex back....sex!,sex!,sex!

[MissX]

I've so tried to keep clear of this thread cause of all the heated emotion it brings out.....so when does getting hot 'n' horny over email become cybersex?

I reckon I wouldn't have a problem with my bloke doing this, as long as I know that it is going on, the male or female in question is on the other side of the planet ...erm.....let me think, oh yes! and I get to join in occasionally :p

Mind, I have still to put this to the test! :)

[Grumble]

Bugger it, I though I had successfully hijacked this thread and Miss X stuffs it up LOL

OK Miss X what would MrX think if I had cybersex with you???

mmmmmmm that is a pleasant but naughty idea mmmmmm

Would love to hear his feedback.

[Harley Q]

To me, cybersex isn't really cheating in the common sense of the word. It can be, but it doesn't have to be. It really is masturbation, with the exception that it takes another person. It can all be a lie, a fantasy, no different than a picture online.
I can be cheating, however, if your relationship with your online lover becomes more impotant or more fufilling than real life.
I guess what I want to say that cybering can easily be an innocent activity--but it can also easily be infidelity.

[MissX]

Grumble - Well I was going to ask where the phrase "Spring forward, Fall back" came from, you know, the one used for putting your clock forward or back.....but thought that would be encouraging you too much :)

Cybersex? well MrX would have to okay it first cause we hold with the "as long as the other person knows and is okay with it" rule. :D

[Irish]

I;just;got back;from masturbating;to Sugarsprinkles new avatar(sp)I hope that wasn't cheating! Irish
P.S.Before everyone goes crazy;I was just kidding.

[Steph]

Er, back to Sweet Baby James - he is correct!!! He rules, he's sexy, funny, great voice and, once again, I digress!

I just had a couple of invitations to cyber this weekend but passed because I'm in a happy relationship. I might participate in cybering again if we break up. Therefore, I must consider it cheating. Sorta. The last relationship I was in, I considered sexually unfulfilling so I cybered. The guy I'm with now would probably cyber with me and another person. OMG, I've confused myself!

Good to know I'm flexible in my thinking! LOL

[pbarnett]

Thanks, Grumble!

I'd been looking for the source of #22 for a couple of decades!

Pete Barnett.

[flutelady]

I consider sharing anything that is sexually intimate with a person other than your signifigant other cheating. And seeing as how cyber sex does involve the sharing of intimacy, then yes, it is most definatley cheating in my opinion.

I'm glad this thread was revived. I agree completely with this quote.

[WildIrish]

I'm more inclined to agree with Lixy.













*Winter, Spring, Summer or Fall.............. All ya got to do is call............ And I'll be there.......yes I will.......You've got a friend!!!!!!!*

Can we really disagree with James Taylor?????????????






:p

[Scarecrow]

And I'll still go up the down staircase.

[BIGbad]

I agree with Flute Lady and therefore Clint. Love is all in the mind and what is cyber but all in the mind? It is a two way interaction. Unlike stories or picks one feeds off the other....

[babes37]

cyber sex is literally a safe way to relieve sexual tension when his/her partner is not present and it is just a fantasy. Many maintain that they would never carry out the imaginative stories they concoct online. Plus, they claim, that cyber sex can benefit the non-participating partner too, wherein they sometimes become so aroused from the cyber sex that their real-life partner receives the heavenly fruit of their labor.

I say it all depends on the motives. if it's in fun or nonserious then NO

[osuche]

I'm more inclined to agree with Lixy. :p

Sheep do cybersex?!? :yikes: How do they type???? :confused:

[WildIrish]

Speaking of fall...how're the leaves doing?


I have a slight recollection of someone needing a leafblower?

[osuche]

Speaking of fall...how're the leaves doing?


I have a slight recollection of someone needing a leafblower?


The leaves turn later here in San Francisco than they do in Ohio....but never fear, when the leaves start falling I'll take a naked romp in them and think of my leafblower.... ;)

[MyAlterEgo]

This is a great question that I'm sure many have pondered!

I'm all for good hot chatting. However, if someone is in a relationship, they should be disclosing to their partner if they are doing things on-line with other people. I'm a big fan of keeping everything in the open. Whenever we try to hide things or justify questionable practices to ourselves, I think we run the risk of creating really large problems down the line and ultimately hurting our partners. The other thing to keep in mind is to ask ourselves, would it be totally ok with me if my partner was doing this behind my back and not telling me? While we all like to think we would be totally open to our partner doing those things, the sting of reality is another thing.

Alter

[HappyPlace]

I couldn't have said it better myself Alter, I agree with you 100%.